Kudziimba mlandu ndi Kunyozedwa

Wopotoza wa narcissistic nthawi zambiri amakulitsa ulamuliro wake ndi ulamuliro mkati mwa banja. Kodi kupotoza kwa narcissistic kumagwira ntchito bwanji kwa inu? kupangitsa munthu kudzimva wolakwa ? Kodi mungachoke bwanji mu ulamulirowu? Kodi ndizotheka kumenya wonyenga wa narcissistic pamasewera ake omwe? Mizere yotsatirayi ikuyankha mafunso anu.

Kodi mungamupangitse bwanji munthu kudziimba mlandu?

Kuti muzindikire bwino munthu wopotoza wa narcissistic, ndikofunikira kudziwa momwe amachitira ndi omwe akuzunzidwa. M'munsimu muli malangizo ena opangitsa munthu kudziimba mlandu:.

1. Mufunseni mafunso m’malo momutsutsa: Izi zimamupangitsa kutero vomereza zolakwa zako mosalunjika. Malinga ndi mayankho ake, mukhoza kumukola bodza limene ananena. Mukamuimba mlandu akhoza kudziikira kumbuyo.

2. Sewerani nokha ngati wozunzidwayo kuti adzimve wolakwa: Kupangitsa munthu kudzimva wolakwa, pangitsa kuti ziwoneke ngati ukuyembekezera khalidwe lake. Muuzeni zinthu zina zimene wachita zimene zakukhumudwitsani. Ichi ndi chinyengo chothandiza kuti apepese kwa iye.

3. Sewerani pamalingaliro: M'mabanja awiri, sewera pamtundu wokhudzidwa wamalingaliro nthawi zonse ndi lingaliro lothandiza. Muuzeni kuti muli ndi mafunso okhudza mmene amakuonerani. Komabe, onetsetsani kuti akuwona ngati akuyenera kutsimikizira kuti amakukondani.

4. Lankhulani zomwe mudamuchitira: musazengereze kuyerekeza zochita zake ndi zanu kuganizira zinthu zabwino zomwe mudamchitira iye. Chofunika kwambiri ndi kusonyeza kuti ndinu munthu wabwino komanso kuti ndinu wodzipereka pa ubwenzi wanu.

5. Pewani kudziimba mlandu:  Mukayesa kupangitsa munthu kudziimba mlandu, akhoza kubwezera. Samalani ndiye osazindikira zolakwa zanu ndipo nthawi zonse amabwerera ku zoyipa zomwe adazichita.

6. Onjezani sewero:  Ngati munthuyo akutsutsa njira zanu zodzudzula, bwanji osatero kwezani malingaliro ? Pakati pa misozi, misozi, kulira ... cholinga ndi kudyetsa malingaliro ake olakwa.

7. Dziwonetseni nokha:  Kuti mupeze zomwe mukufuna, onetsani kupambana kwanu ndi ntchito zanu zabwino. Mukamadzipereka kwambiri, kudzakhala kosavuta kupeza mayankho abwino.

8. Yang'anani kwambiri pamalingaliro olakwika:  Maganizo oipa ndi zida zothandiza kupeza zomwe mukufuna. Pakati pa chisoni, manyazi, mkwiyo, mantha, ndi zina zotero, mudzakhala ndi zosankha zambiri. Mukamupempha kanthu, yambitsani maganizo oipa. Izi zipangitsa kuti m'malo mwake mukhale ndi chisangalalo chochulukirapo ndipo mutha kukhala ndi zomwe mukufuna.

9. Gwiritsani ntchito chisangalalo:  Mukamagwiritsa ntchito malingaliro olakwika, bwanji osaganizira kwambiri kumva chimwemwe ndi chikondi ? Mupangitseni kuti akhulupirire zimenezo mumafunsa mukhoza kumva bwino.

10. Funsani mosiyana: Ngati munthuyo sakugonja pa zoyesayesa zanu zomupangitsa kumva kuti ndi wolakwa, gwiritsani ntchito njira zina zofunsira. Onetsetsani, komabe, kuti mupume pakati pa zoyesayesa zanu ndikuyesanso nthawi ina.

Paubwenzi ndi wopotoza wa narcissistic, the kusokoneza nthawi zonse alipo. Wopotoza wa narcissistic amachigwiritsa ntchito kuti asunge mawonekedwe ake komanso kudzidalira. Amapatutsira zophophonya zake zonse kwa mnzake. Kenako wozunzidwayo amadziona kuti ndi wolakwa ndipo wonyengayo amamva kuti ali ndi mphamvu.

Kodi mungapulumuke bwanji mlandu woperekedwa ndi munthu wopotoza wankhanza?

La kupalamula ndi imodzi mwa njira zamphamvu kwambiri zomwe zimagwiritsidwa ntchito ndi manipulator. Kuti mudzipulumutse ku izo, nthawi zonse zimalangizidwa kuti mulandire chithandizo. Kukambitsirana kumapereka mwayi kwa woponderezedwa wa narcissistic kuti afotokoze zinthu. Zimathandizanso kusintha makhalidwe ndi maubwenzi ndi ena.

Kugwira ntchito nokha kumakupatsani mwayi wotuluka mumkhalidwe woyipawu womwe umabweretsa kutsika mtengo komanso kudzikana. Ngati wozunzidwayo asungabe mlandu wake, amadziwononga yekha. Komanso, angadzipeze kuti sangathe kudzikonda ndipo akhoza kukhala ndi vuto lodziona kuti ndi losafunika komanso amadziona kuti ndi wolakwa.

Kodi mungamupangitse bwanji munthu wopotoza wa narcissistic kudzimva wolakwa?

Ngati muli mu a ubale woopsa, ndikuyesa kupangitsa nyamayo kuti amugonjetse pamasewera ake omwe, samalani, musalole kuti mutsitsidwe pamlingo wake ndikukhala wonyenga. Komabe, pali njira zopotoka zomwe mungagwiritse ntchito motsutsana nawo. Cholinga chake ndikuwasokoneza ndikuwapangitsa kuti azikayikira okha. Ndi njira zomwe zili pansipa, zidzakhala zosavuta kuti muchotse malingaliro anu olakwa komanso, panthawi imodzimodziyo, kupotoza kwa narcissistic.

  • Ikani malire: Kuti asokoneze munthu wopotoza wankhanza, palibe chomwe chili ngati kukhala wolimba ndi iye. Ganizirani zoikira malire kuti muyenera kufotokoza momveka bwino. Nenaninso kuti kuswa malire amenewa kudzakhala ndi zotsatira zake.
  • Khalani chete: Poyang'anizana ndi kuyesa kunyengerera ndi kudzudzula, onetsetsani khalani chete. Izi, ndithudi, zidzamusokoneza iye ndi kumupangitsa iye kukayikira ulamuliro wake pa inu.
  • Pewani kuwonetsa zakukhosi kwanu: Kuti akulamulireni, wopotoza wa narcissistic amagwiritsa ntchito malingaliro anu motsutsana nanu. Kenako amamulamulira mwamatsenga kuti awalamulire bwino. Kuti mupewe izi, samalani kuti musadziulule nokha, makamaka ngati ndinu munthu wosamala. Pobisa momwe mukumvera komanso kusatetezeka kwanu, simupatsa mwayi wowongolera kuti akufikireni.
  • Gwiritsani ntchito zofooka zake: Munthu wopotoza wa narcissistic ndi, nthawi zambiri, munthu wodalira m'malingaliro yemwe ali ndi nkhani zodzidalira. Amafunikira chisamaliro ndi kusilira. Kuti musokoneze, mungathe gwiritsani ntchito zofooka zake motsutsana naye. Mwachitsanzo, musamupatse chisamaliro chimene akufuna. Kuti mupangitse kudzikonda kwake, mutha kuyamika anthu ena omwe muli nawo popanda kuwabwezera.

Maumboni a m'mabuku opangitsa kuti munthu wopotoza adzimve wolakwa

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Kutsiliza

Kutuluka m'manja mwa munthu wopotoza narcissistic kumafuna kuyambiranso kuwongolera malingaliro anu komanso kudziwona kwanu. Kudziimba mlandu ndi chida champhamvu chomwe chimagwiritsidwa ntchito ndi anthu onyenga, koma chitha kulimbana ndi kulimba komanso kulimba mtima. Mwa kuika malire omveka bwino, kukana kutengeka maganizo ndi kuyesetsa kudzidalira, n’zotheka kudzimasula ku chisonkhezero chowononga chimenechi. Ngati kuwongolera ndi mphamvu zawo, chidziwitso ndi kudziletsa ndizo makiyi akupezanso mphamvu ndikukhalanso bwino. Ndikofunika kukumbukira kuti njira yeniyeni yochiritsira ndiyo kudzilemekeza komanso, nthawi zina, thandizo la akatswiri.

Cristina Balan

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