Kusudzulana ndizovuta kwa maanja onse. Koma zitha kukhala zovuta kwambiri ngati m'modzi mwa okwatiranawo ali wosokoneza. Kusudzula munthu wopotoza wankhanza nthawi zambiri kumabweretsa mikangano yayikulu, osatchulanso malingaliro amphamvu omwe amayesa kuyesa. Ichi ndichifukwa chake ndikofunikira kufunafuna kudzizungulira bwino ndikukonza dongosolo bwino pamagawo onse. Cholinga: kuteteza ufulu wanu ndi kuthana ndi vutoli mwaumoyo komanso moyenera.
Kusudzulana: Kodi ndi njira yothetsera vuto lachinyengo?
Narcissists amawongolera ndikuwongolera anzawo, kubweretsa nkhawa, kukhumudwa komanso mantha. Mukasudzula munthu wopotoza wankhanza, mumapezanso ufulu wanu wodziimira komanso chimwemwe chanu cha moyo. Zomwe zidzakhala zopindulitsa pa thanzi lanu lamaganizo ndi thupi.
Koposa zonse, kusudzulana kumathetsa mchitidwe wachinyengo ndi nkhanza. Kudziwa kuti munthu wopotoza wa narcissistic nthawi zambiri sangathe kusintha kapena kuzindikira zolakwa zake.
Nthawi zambiri, kusudzulana ndi munthu wopotoza maganizo ndiko njira yokhayo yodzitetezera ndi ana amene ali paubwenzi. Zoona zake n'zakuti mukuwapatsa malo athanzi komanso otetezeka, kutali ndi njira iliyonse yowakokera kapena kuwazunza.
Ndi njira ziti zomwe mungatsatire kuti musudzule munthu wopotoza wankhanza?
Asanayambe chisudzulo ndi wopotoza wamwano, kudziwa bwino. Dzikonzekereni momwe mungathere, makamaka popeza PN satenga udindo wa chisudzulo chawo.
Kodi mukuganiza momwe mungasulire mwamuna wapoizoni kapena wopotoza wankhanza? Nazi njira zomwe mungatsatire:
1. Itanani loya wodziwika bwino wa narcissistic pervert
Njira iyi ndiyofunikira kwambiri chifukwa imakuthandizani:
- zindikirani zovuta za chisudzulo;
- dziwani lamulo loletsa kupotoza kwa narcissistic;
- tetezani zokonda zanu.
Malangizo athu ndi osavuta: sankhani a loya wa narcissistic pervert katswiri amene amamvetsetsa zovuta zomwe mumakumana nazo. Adzakuuzani momwe mungasulire mwamuna wapoizoni.
2. Khalani ndi anthu omwe mumawakhulupirira
PN sakonda wozunzidwayo kuti amangenso moyo wake. Choncho ndikofunikira kudalira network yothandizira, makamaka panthawi yachisudzulo.
Kodi muli ndi anzanu kapena achibale omwe mumawakhulupirira? Musazengereze kuwapempha kuti akuthandizeni ndi kumvetsera. Mutha kulumikizananso ndi magulu othandizira amayi omwe akukumana ndi zovuta ngati izi.
3. Sonkhanitsani umboni wa khalidwe lachipongwe kapena lachipongwe kuchokera kwa mnzanuyo
Mnzanu woipa wankhanza adzayesa kukunyozetsani ndikukupangitsani kuti muwoneke ngati munthu woipa panthawi yachisudzulo. Ichi ndichifukwa chake ndikofunikira kudziwa ndendende momwe mungavumbulutsire PN kukhothi.
Njira yabwino kwambiri: sonkhanitsani umboni wonse wosonyeza nkhanza kapena chinyengo kudzera pa mauthenga kapena maimelo. Maumboni a okondedwa anu nawonso adzakuthandizani kwambiri.
4. Fufuzani thandizo kumabungwe omenyera ufulu wa amayi kapena nkhanza za m’banja
Mutha kulumikizana ndi mabungwe omenyera ufulu wa amayi kapena mabungwe othandizira kuti akuthandizeni. Adzathanso kukupatsani malangizo amomwe mungatsatire. Mukhozanso kukudziwitsani kudzera pa zikalata posaka: kusudzulana ndi buku lopotoza lachipongwe.
5. Konzekerani chitetezo ndi chisamaliro cha ana
Kodi muli ndi ana? Ndikofunikira kwambiri kuwateteza panthawi yachisudzulo. Konzani dongosolo la chisamaliro ndi chithandizo kwa iwo. Ndipo koposa zonse, atetezeni ku nkhanza zamtundu uliwonse kapena kuzunzidwa kuchokera kwa wokondedwa wanu. Apanso, loya wapadera wa narcissistic wopotoza atha kukuthandizani ndikukulangizani.
6. Samalirani ndalama ndi kuteteza katundu
Sonkhanitsani zikalata zonse zachuma ndi katundu wanu. Pewani kusaina zikalata kapena kupanga zisankho zofunika zachuma popanda lankhulani ndi loya kapena mlangizi wazachuma. Ikani njira zodzitetezera. Mwachitsanzo, patulani maakaunti aku banki ndikusintha mawu achinsinsi.
Kodi mungasamalire bwanji kulera limodzi ndi munthu wopotoza wa narcissistic pambuyo pa chisudzulo?
PN savomereza kusudzulana kwake. Choncho, adzayesa kukusokonezani momwe mungathere mu bungwe la co-analera. Kukhazikitsa kulankhulana kokhwima ndi munthu wopotoza wa narcissistic kuli kosatheka, chifukwa ndi zomwe narcissist amachita. woyendetsa titatha kupatukana. Komabe, m’pofunika kukhazikitsa dongosolo la kasamalidwe ka makolo ndi mwamuna kapena mkazi wanu wakale.
Choyamba, fotokozani ndendendeUdindo ndi ufulu wa kholo lililonse. Izi zitha kuchitika mothandizidwa ndi loya wopotoza wankhanza. Mukhozanso kulankhulana ndi mlangizi wa mabanja ndi mabanja.
Kenako, khazikitsani njira zolankhulirana kuti mupewe kusamvana ndi mikangano. Izi zitha kukhala:
- pulogalamu yaulere pa intaneti;
- logbook.
Nthawi zina mungafunike thandizo la akatswiri kuti muthe kuthana ndi malingaliro komanso zovuta za kulera limodzi ndi katswiri wamatsenga. Pamenepa, funsani dokotala kapena mlangizi wa mabanja ndi mabanja.
Pomaliza, ndikofunikira kuteteza ana. Chifukwa chakuti ubwino wawo umabwera choyamba, yesetsani kusunga mgwirizano wotukuka ndi kulankhulana ndi kholo lina.
Kodi mungadziteteze bwanji kwa munthu wopotoza wa narcissistic panthawi yachisudzulo?
Pokhala wonyenga kwambiri, wopotoza wa narcissistic angachite chilichonse ku:
- kukupwetekani;
- kumakupangitsani kumva kuti ndinu osafunika;
- kukupangitsani kumva ngati mukupanga zisankho zolakwika;
- kukupangitsani inu kukhulupirira kuti zinali bwino ndi iye.
Kuti mumalize bwinobwino chisudzulo, ikani zovuta zonse kumbali yanu. Koposa zonse, dzitetezeni m’maganizo. Khalani kutali ndi mwamuna kapena mkazi wanu ndipo muchepetse kulumikizana momwe mungathere.
Mauthenga a m’Baibulo onena za chisudzulo chopambana
Nawa maumboni asanu ndi awiri a m'mabukhu okhudza za chisudzulo kuchokera kwa wopotoza wamatsenga:
- Bain, E. (2018). Narcissistic control: Momwe mungadzimasulire nokha kwa munthu wopotoza. Editions Eyrolles.
- Kollinzas, A. (2020). Kukonda ndi kuwongolera: Njira za narcissistic pervert. Zolemba za l'Homme.
- Neel, C. (2014). Opotoza Narcissistic: Kumvetsetsa ndi kuchiritsa. Odile Jacob Editions.
- Michaud, F. (2019). Kudzimasula nokha kuchokera kwa wopotoza wankhanza: Chitsogozo chothandiza kuti mutuluke pakusintha kwachinyengo.. Zolemba za Rocher.
- Lemoine, J. (2016). Kutuluka muulamuliro: Kalozera wopulumuka pambuyo pa ubale ndi munthu wosokoneza bongo. Dunod Editions.
- Cohen, L. (2017). Wopotoza Narcissistic: Kumvetsetsa, kuzindikira, kuchita. Zosindikiza za Le Duc.
- Baker, A. (2021). Zilonda zachikondi: Kuchila pambuyo pa chibwenzi ndi munthu wopondereza. Zosintha za Marabout.
Maumboni awa akuyenera kukupatsirani chithunzithunzi chabwino chazovuta zamaganizidwe ndi njira zomwe mungatsatire kuti musudzule munthu wopotoza wankhanza.
Kutsiliza
Pomaliza, kusudzula munthu wopotoza wankhanza ndizovuta, koma nthawi zambiri ndikofunikira kuti mukhalenso ndi moyo wabwino ndikuteteza ufulu wanu. Podzizungulira nokha ndi akatswiri odziwa bwino ntchito komanso maukonde olimba othandizira, ndizotheka kuthana ndi vutoli mosatekeseka. Kusankha kumeneku, ngakhale kuli kopweteka, kungatsegule njira ya moyo wolinganizika ndi wokhutiritsa, kutali ndi kupusitsidwa ndi kuzunzidwa. Kuika patsogolo thanzi lanu lamalingaliro ndi la ana anu ndikofunikira kuti mupange tsogolo labwino.
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Ndi njira yothandizanso anthu, popeza ineyo ndakhala ndikutha kupeza chithandizo kwa anthu osawadziwa pamoyo wanga wonse. Palibe anthu opotoza a narcissistic padziko lapansi pano komanso mwamwayi! Pano tikuthandiza anthu kumvetsetsa zomwe zikuwachitikira ndikupita kumoyo wopanda anthu onyoza - moyo wanu wabwino kwambiri! Simuli nokha ndipo mutha kusintha kuti mukhale ndi moyo wokhutiritsa, wodzaza ndi mtendere, mgwirizano ndi chikondi!
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