Le abandonment syndrome zimagwirizana kwambiri ndi nkhawa yosiyidwa. Mkhalidwewu umakhudza kangapo pa maubwenzi a munthu, kaya ndi okondana, ochezeka kapena achibale. Izi ndi zofunika kudziwa za izo.
Kodi kusiya kapena kuopa kusiyidwa ndi chiyani?
Anthu omwe ali ndi vuto losiyanitsidwa amakhala ndi mantha osalekeza a kukanidwa kapena kudzipatula. Odziwika ndi zizindikiro monga kusatetezeka komanso kudalirana, ma syndromes osiyidwa sizodziwika bwino chifukwa cha matenda amisala.
Ngati munthu akukumana ndi mavuto aakulu m'moyo wake chifukwa choopa kusiyidwa, katswiri wa zamaganizo angamuzindikire kuti ali ndi vuto linalake, monga nkhawa kapena kupsinjika maganizo. Onse akuluakulu ndi ana amatha kumva kumverera uku, zomwe zingayambitse kuvutika maganizo komanso kuwononga kwambiri kumanga maubwenzi.
Kodi abandonment syndrome imachokera kuti?
Kutaya mtima nthawi zambiri kumachokera ku zowawa zaubwana, malinga ndi akatswiri ambiri a psychology. Kumverera kwamphamvu kumeneku kosiyidwa, kukanidwa kapena kusaphatikizidwa mwina kunapezedwa chifukwa chokumana ndi munthu wosadalirika, wozunza kapena kulibe (kholo, nanny, ndi zina zotero).
Ngakhale zili zowona kuti kuopa kusiyidwa kungayambitsidwe mosavuta ndi nkhani zokhudzana ndi amayi ndi/kapena abambo, ubale uliwonse ungakhalenso gwero la matenda osiya. Mwachitsanzo, imfa ya wokondedwa nthawi iliyonse m'miyoyo yathu ingathenso kubwereketsa ku chitukuko cha kusiya matenda. Kuonjezera apo, ngati mwamuna kapena mkazi kapena wokondedwa asankha kuthetsa chibwenzi, izi zingayambitsenso mantha osiyidwa.
Matenda a zachipatala ndi amaganizo, kukanidwa ndi chikondi, kuchitiridwa nkhanza kuntchito kapena kusowa ntchito, kapena mavuto a zachuma angakhale magwero ena a matenda osiyidwa. Nthawi zonse, munthu wokhudzidwayo amadzimva kukhala wokwiya kapena wosatetezeka, zomwe zingasokoneze maubwenzi amtsogolo.
Kodi zotsatira za abandonment syndrome ndi zotani?
Abandonment syndrome imatha kupezeka ndi zizindikiro zamaganizo ndi khalidwe. Ngakhale zingawonekere mosiyana mwa anthu ena, zizindikiro zodziwika bwino ndi izi:
Nkhawa ya kusiyidwa nthawi zambiri zimagwirizanitsidwa ndi kusowa kwa inshuwalansi. Pokhala ndi chidaliro chochepa, anthu akuwopa kusiyidwa sakhala odekha ponena za malingaliro awo ndi maubwenzi awo apamtima, achibale, kapena achikondi. Adzadziona ngati osafunika ndipo amakhulupirira kuti sakuyenera kukhala paubwenzi ndi munthu wina.
- Kudalira pamtima
Kudalira maganizo ndi chimodzi mwa zizindikiro zomwe zimagwirizanitsidwa nazo kuopa kusiyidwa. Zoonadi, munthu amene wakhudzidwa ndi matendawa amatha kuona kuti akufunika kukhala ndi anthu ena. Kwa iye, kukhalapo uku kumakhala ndi zotsatira zolimbikitsa komanso kumathandiza kupewa nkhawa.
- Maubwenzi osagwirizana
Le abandonment syndrome zingachititse munthu kukankhira ena kutali, koma n'zotheka kuti izo zikhale ndi zotsatira zosiyana. Munthu amene amaopa kusiyidwa akhoza kukana kusiya mwamuna kapena mkazi wake, ngakhale atakhala kuti ali pachibwenzi chosayenera. Akhoza kuchita mantha kuti sangapeze munthu wina kapena kukhulupirira kuti sakuyenera kulandira chithandizo chabwino.
- Kusokoneza ubale wabanja
Kwa munthu yemwe ali ndi vuto losiya, maubwenzi a m'banja amakhala magwero a nkhawa. Nthawi zambiri amavutika kukhulupirira ena. Izi zidzathandiza kupanga mpweya wolemera ndi wapoizoni m'banja. Munthu amene amaopa kusiyidwa sangathe kudzinenera. Adzakhumudwa, kuopsezedwa, kukanidwa ndi kukhumudwa. Chifukwa cha izi, amatha kukhala kutali, kapena ngakhale wankhanza.
Kodi mungagonjetse bwanji nkhawa ya kusiyidwa?
Kugonjetsa syndrome yosiya kungakhale kovuta. Koma sikuchedwa kuyamba kuyesetsa. Makamaka popeza ndizotheka kuphunzira njira zomwe zingakuthandizeni.
Ndi njira zoyenera, mukhoza kuchiza ndikugonjetsa nkhawa zako kotero mutha kulimbikitsa ndi kusunga maubwenzi abwino, abwino m'moyo wanu.
- Tsimikizirani kalembedwe kanu
Timapanga masitayelo olumikizana paubwana. Zimadalira mmene makolo athu ankatichitira. Zikhoza kukhudza mmene timachitira ndi anthu m’moyo wathu wonse tikadzakula.
Chizindikiro chanu attachment style akhoza kukupatsani kuzindikira pa mantha anu ndi kukupangitsani inu kuzindikira makhalidwe anu. M’kupita kwa nthaŵi, mungaphunzire kugwirizana ndi ena m’njira zathanzi. Nayi masitayelo anayi akulu ophatikizika: kuphatikana ndi nkhawa, kulumikizidwa kopewera, kulumikizidwa kosalongosoka, kulumikizidwa kotetezedwa.
- Pitani mukadzipeze nokha
Ngakhale ndizofala kwa anthu amene amaopa kusiyidwa kuchita manyazi, kuganiza za mantha anu kungapangitse kuti zikhale zosavuta kuzithetsa. Nkhawa zimenezi kaŵirikaŵiri zimakhala zozama kwambiri ndipo sizingatheke ngati mwanyalanyaza. Kulimbana ndi malingaliro anu kungakuthandizeni kusintha bwino moyo wanu.
- Funsani thandizo kwa dokotala
Abandonment syndrome ndi zoipa zovuta ndipo zingakhale zovuta kudzilamulira nokha. Mothandizidwa ndi dokotala, mukhoza kuphunzira zambiri za mantha anu ndi chiyambi chawo. Mwachitsanzo, psychotherapist adzatha kukuthandizani kudzimasula nokha ku chikoka cha internalized zowawa zakale.
Itanani katswiri wazachipatala
Mudzayamba kutero kumvetsetsa zomwe zimayambitsa ma syndromes osiya kuti mwakumana. Izi zikuthandizani kuti muyambe kukonza zowawa zanu zam'mbuyomu ndikupanga maubwenzi abwino pakalipano komanso mtsogolo.
Bibliographic reference on abandonment syndrome
Nawa maumboni asanu ndi awiri a m'mabuku achi French pamutu wa matenda osiya:
- Bowlby, J. (1983). Kutaya: kukhumudwa komanso kukhumudwa. Zosindikiza za Gulu.
(Ngakhale Bowlby ndi mlembi wa Anglo-Saxon, ntchito yake yolumikizirana ndiyofunikira pakumvetsetsa matenda osiya.) - Kernberg, PA (1999). Kupatukana nkhawa ndi kusiya syndrome, mu Psychoanalysis ndi psychopathology. Paris: Éditions Dunod.
- Roussillon, R. (2005). Maubwenzi ophatikizika: zotsatira pa umunthu ndi psychopathology. Paris: Editions Erès.
(Ntchitoyi ikuyang'ana zotsatira za zomangira zoyamba, zolumikizidwa ndi matenda osiya.) - Favez, N. et al. (2009). Ubale wa makolo ndi mwana ndi Sindrome Yosiya: Nkhani ndi Zochita. Magazini ya ku France ya psychoanalysis, 73 (2), 203-218.
- Guérin, E. (2010). Abandonment syndrome: njira zochiritsira komanso zamankhwala. French psychiatry, 85 (4), 299-312.
- Bourguignon, M. (2013). Zotsatira za kusiyidwa syndrome pamalingaliro ndi ubale moyo, mu Psychology ya Attachment. Paris: Zosintha za PUF.
- Mourot, G. (2017). Abandonment syndrome ndi kulimba mtima: kuphunzira nkhani ndi njira zochiritsira. Psychology Review, 62 (1), 45-58.
Maumboni awa akupatsirani poyambira bwino kuti mufufuze mutu wa kusiyidwa kwa matenda osiyanasiyana.
Kutsiliza
Pomaliza, abandonment syndrome ndi chowonadi chovuta kwambiri chomwe chimakhudza kwambiri maubwenzi apakati pa anthu, kaya achikondi, ochezeka kapena achibale. Kumvetsetsa chiyambi chake ndi mawonetseredwe ake ndikofunikira kuti tiyambe kuchira. Kupyolera mu kufufuza moona mtima ndi chithandizo cha akatswiri, ndizotheka kuthetsa mantha opuwalawa ndi kumanga maubwenzi abwino ndi oyenera. Poyandikira kukhumudwa ndi kumasuka, aliyense akhoza kuyembekezera kupeza njira yopitira ku ubale wokhutiritsa komanso wowona.
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