Makhalidwe 9 a manipulator atatha kupatukana

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Khalidwe la manipulator pambuyo pa kusweka : Kodi munthu wapoizoni ameneyu amachita bwanji mukawasiya? Kodi zinthu zikuvuta? Zochita zimatha kukhala zosiyanasiyana! Kuti ndikupatseni lingaliro, nazi 9 zomwe zingachitike ndi wonyenga mukamusiya.

Khalidwe la manipulator pambuyo pa kusweka - 9 zochita

Nayi zitsanzo:

1. Amamuyang'anitsitsa kwambiri munthu amene wamuvulazayo

Chimodzi mwazinthu 20 a narcissistic wopotoza manipulator chidani ndi kuchisiya ndikuchinyalanyaza. Chinthu choyamba chimene adzachita mutathetsa banja ndikukuyang'anirani. Monga momwe nyama yolusa imapendera nyama yake, imakuvutitsani ndikuwunika omwe mumagwirizana nawo.

2. Akumva kukhumudwa

Zimenezi zikusonyeza kuti walephera kukulamulirani, osati chifukwa chakuti wachibale wake anamwalira. Chokhumudwitsacho chimabweranso chifukwa chakuti iye sakanakwanitsa cholinga chake, chakuti akupangitseni kuti muzidalira iye kotheratu. Gawo ili la chete la PN pambuyo pa kutha limadziwika ndi mkwiyo waukulu kwa iye komanso kwa inu.

3. Samva chisoni

La zomwe zimachitika munthu wonyenga mukamusiya ndi kanthu koma wokonda kapena munthu wokonda ena. Palibe njira imene angamvetsere ululu wanu kapena kuvutika kwanu, kuposanso kuchitira chifundo. Ichi ndichifukwa chake chimodzi mwazochita zonyenga pambuyo pa kutha ndikuti amayesa kukupangitsani kuti mukhulupirire kuti akukhudzidwa ndi kuchoka kwanu. M'malo mwake, wonyenga wa PN amawoneka wokongola komanso wosamala kumayambiriro kwa ubale poyesa kukulamulirani.

4. Ndi katswiri pa Double Game

Pamene mukuganiza kuti PN ikuvutika, wonyenga akuganiza zokunyengererani kachiwiri. Iye ndi ace mu masewera awiri, munthu wa nkhope ziwiri yemwe amachita bwino m'derali. Ndipotu, PN sasamala za ena, m'malo mwake, amawagwiritsa ntchito. Choncho n’zosakayikitsa kuti angakupangitseni kukhulupirira kuti cholinga chake chachikulu ndicho kukusangalatsani.

5. Adzakumana nanu ndi zomwe mumakhulupilira

Pokhala wonyenga kwambiri, cholinga chake ndikukupangitsani kukhulupirira kuti ndinu opanda pake komanso kuti musinthe malingaliro anu. Zidzapangitsa kudziona kuti ndi wosafunika, zomwe zidzachititsa kuti munthu asamadzione ngati wosafunika. Kulimbana ndi zomwe mumakonda kumamupatsa mwayi woti athetse kunyada kwanu.

6. Akukudzudzulani;

Kufuna kusintha zinthu kuti zipindule ndi zomwe zimachitika kawirikawiri pakati pa FNs. Pamapeto pake, adzayesa kukupangitsani kumva kuti ndinu wolakwa, kukutsutsani, kuyeretsa fano lake ndikudziwonetsa ngati wozunzidwa. Koposa zonse, musachite nawo mania iyi, chifukwa zotsatira za chete pa manipulator sizingaimitsidwe.

7. Amafuna kuopseza wozunzidwayo

Mantha ndikumverera komwe kumapereka mphamvu zambiri kwa owongolera ndipo amadziwa. Ichi ndichifukwa chake, ngati alephera kukwaniritsa cholinga chawo, amayesa kukuwopsyezani. Njira yoti akuwonetseni kuti ndi okhawo amene angakutetezeni. Samalani ndipo koposa zonse gwiritsani ntchito kulimba mtima kukumana nazo.

8. Adzagwiritsa ntchito nkhanza zamaganizo

Pambuyo pa mantha, adzadutsa ziopsezo ndipo ngati mwayi utapezeka, akhoza kukupangitsani kuti mugwere m'maganizo. Zowonadi, chiwawa chamalingaliro ndi chimodzi mwazovuta zomwe mungakumane nazo muubwenzi wachikondi ndi munthu wankhanza. Ichi ndichifukwa chake nthawi zonse muyenera kukhala ndi chithandizo chamalingaliro ndimalingaliro pambali panu mutasiya PN.

9. Khalidwe la Wonyenga Pambuyo pa Kutha: Akufuna kukambirana

Wonyenga wa narcissistic nthawi zonse amabwerera m'moyo wa wozunzidwayo atapatukana kuti amutsimikizire kuti asiye chisankho chake. Adzayesa kupeza chigwirizano cha chiyanjano chotheka. Sizingatheke kudziwa ndendende kuti zimatenga nthawi yayitali bwanji kuti PN ibwerere, koma nthawi zonse imadziwonetsera yokha.

Kodi njira zosinthira ndi ziti?

Kuti akhazikitse mphamvu zake zowononga, PN imachita mochenjera kuphimba maso a wozunzidwayo:

  1. Malingaliro amalingaliro: apa, wonyengayo akupangitseni kuoneka ngati mbuzi ya mbuzi ndikukudzudzulani zochita zomwe amachita yekha. Monga wabodza amene anganene kuti ndinu wabodza, kapena munthu wansanje amene anganene kuti ndinu wansanje kwambiri komanso wokonda chuma.
  2. The mapindikidwe: yomwe imatchedwanso njira ya munthu wa udzu, wonyengayo amapeza chisangalalo chachikulu popotoza mawu anu kapena kuwapangitsa kukhala oipitsitsa. Amawasintha mwanjira iliyonse yomwe angafune ndipo amagwiritsa ntchito mikangano yanu pa inu nokha mpaka kudzimva kuti ndinu wolakwa.
  3. Zoyipa zamalingaliro: Njirayi imadziwika ndi PN ndipo imaigwiritsa ntchito posunga nyama yake pansi pa mphamvu zake. Ngati awona kuti mumamudalira, simudzazindikira munthu wonyenga akakusiyani ndikubwerera, chifukwa ichi ndi gawo la malingaliro ake olakwika.
  4. The Bluff kapena bodza: kubisa chowonadi, kukubisirani dala maganizo ake, wonyengayo adzakupangitsani kuti muwone mbali yake yomwe ili yolakwika kwambiri. Iye ndi wapawiri game Ace.
  5. Kugwiritsa ntchito molakwika kapena kuyatsa gasi : manipulator amakupangitsani kudzikayikira mpaka kukupangitsani kuoneka ngati chitsiru. Adzagwiritsa ntchito mawu ngati " Si mmene zinachitikira! Ndi malingaliro anu! Wapenga! » Nthawi zambiri timalankhula za kuba mwachidziwitso.

Kodi manipulators angasinthe?

The narcissistic manipulator ndi munthu amene samadzifunsa yekha. Chifukwa chake, kuwasintha kumakhala ntchito yosatheka, ngakhale mikhalidwe ina ikatha kusintha. Kuti muchite izi, muyenera kudziwa ndendende chomwe chofooka cha manipulator ndi?

Zowonadi, kuti PN isinthe, iyenera kudutsa mumkhalidwe wovuta kwambiri pomwe idzawona kuti yagundadi pansi mpaka kugwa. Zimenezi ziyenera kumuchititsa kuzindikira khalidwe lake ndi kufuna kusintha kotheratu kuti akhale munthu watsopano. Izi zimakhala zovuta kudziwa ndi kukwaniritsa, chifukwa ndi munthu amene amasangalala kuona ena akuvutika.

Buku la Bibliographic pakhalidwe la manipulator

Nawa maumboni asanu ndi awiri pamutu wa machitidwe onyenga:

  1. Sénécal, J. (2013). Kunyengerera: Kumvetsetsa ndi kuzindikira khalidwe lachinyengo. Zolemba za l'Homme.
  2. Vermot, J. (2015). Kusokoneza maganizo. Presses Universitaires de France.
  3. Lalande, J. (2016). Upangiri Wowongolera: Momwe Mungadziwire ndi Kuteteza Kwa Osokoneza. Editions Eyrolles.
  4. Bourcier, S. (2014). Psychology of manipulation: Kumvetsetsa kuchita. Zolemba za L'Harmattan.
  5. Bouchard, G. (2018). Kusokoneza anthu: Pakati pa chikoka ndi nkhanza. Zolemba za De Boeck.
  6. Cohen, M. (2017). Manipulators: Momwe mungawazindikire ndikudzimasula nokha kwa iwo. Zolemba za Larousse.
  7. Rico, C. (2019). Psychology of manipulation: kusanthula ndi malingaliro. Dunod Editions.

Maumboniwa amapereka malingaliro osiyanasiyana pamutuwu ndipo angakuthandizeni kumvetsetsa bwino khalidwe lachinyengo ndi zotsatira zake.

Khalidwe la manipulator pambuyo pa kusweka - Mapeto

Mwachidule, chidziwitsochi chidzakulolani kuti mukhale ndi chiyambi pa khalidwe la manipulator pambuyo pa kuphulika. Ngakhale nthawi zina zimakhala zothandiza kudziwa momwe wonyenga amakusiyirani, koma ngati zomwe mwachitazo zimachokera kwa inu, dziwani kuti wozunza wanu sangakusiyeni sitepe imodzi.

Cristina Balan
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