Kodi mungakhale bwanji ndi munthu wopotoza narcissistic? 5 malangizo

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Kukhala ndi mnzako wopotozedwa zimakhala zovuta kwambiri komanso zoopsa kwambiri. Komabe, pakali pano, akazi ambiri amakhala mu a ubale woopsa ndi munthu wotere. Tsatirani nkhaniyi ndipo mudziwa zoopsa zomwe mumakumana nazo muubwenziwu, momwe mungatulukiremo pamodzi ndi zina zomwe muyenera kuzidziwa.  

Mumadziwa bwanji kuti mukukhala ndi munthu wopotoza wamatsenga?

Munthu wopotoza ndi munthu amene amafuna kulamulira chilichonse. Amafuna kulamulira moyo wake komanso wa anthu amene amakhala nawo pafupi. Pa moyo wake, PN amathera nthawi yake yonse kulamulira ndi kusokoneza ena. Nthawi zonse amafuna kuwonedwa ngati munthu wapamwamba. Apo wogwidwa ndi munthu wopotoza wankhanza tsiku ndi tsiku amanyozedwa, kunyozedwa, kuopsezedwa ndi kunyozedwa. Nthawi zonse zimatha kudzipatula kudziko lapansi.

Momwe mungakhalire ndi wopotoza wankhanza - Kuopsa kokhala naye

Nayi kuopsa kokhala ndi munthu wopotoza wankhanza:

  • Ndizovuta kuzindikira wopotoza wa narcissistic pa tsiku loyamba. Poyamba adzatero zabwino kwambiri komanso zothandiza, woyenereradi kalonga wokongola. Koma, m'kupita kwa nthawi, zidzakhala zoopsa kwambiri kwa wozunzidwayo ndipo PN imakhala yoopsa kwambiri.
  • Poyamba, aliyense adzakhala pansi pa matsenga ake. Tsopano popeza ali gawo la moyo wake nyama, adzamunyengerera ndipo pomalizira pake adzamuwononga kotheratu. PN adziwonetsa yekha ngati munthu amene wazunzidwayo wakhala akumufuna kwa nthawi yayitali.
  • Munthu wachikondi, watcheru, wokoma mtima, etc. M'malo mwake, PN ikungosewera nthabwala. Wozunzidwayo atha kufika polephera kuonana ndi anzawo ndi achibale awo chifukwa cha chinyengo cha wopondereza wankhanzayo.
  • Pambuyo pazithunzi zonsezi, PN idzasintha nkhope yake. Adzakupangitsani kukhulupirira kuti ndinu woipa m’nkhaniyi komanso kuti iyeyo ndi amene wachitiridwa nkhanza. Wozunzidwayo nthawi yomweyo amagwera mumsampha uwu ndikuyamba kudziimba mlandu. Kuonjezera apo, adzakhala ndi vuto la maganizo ndipo amavutika maganizo kwambiri mpaka atadzipha.

Malangizo 5 okhalira ndi munthu wopotoza wosokoneza

Ngati ndinu wozunzidwa ndi munthu wopotoka wankhanza koma mumamukondadi, ndikofunikira kudziwa momwe mungakhalire ndi mwamuna wanu wopotoka kapena mkazi wopotoka. Tsatirani malangizo 5 otsatirawa ndipo mudziwa momwe mungakhalire ndi mwamuna kapena mkazi ndi umunthu wa narcissistic?

1. Mvetserani

Nthawi zambiri, anthu opotoza a narcissistic nthawi zonse amaonedwa ngati anthu oipa. Koma, iwonso akhoza kukhala kalonga wokongola. Nthawi yomwe mukusangalala muubwenzi wanu, mutha kunyalanyaza zonse zomwe zikuchitika pozungulira inu. Komabe, ngati mudakali ndi mavuto muubwenzi wanu, m'pofunikadi kukulitsa luso lanu lomvetsera. Izi zikachitika, ndiye kuti ubale wanu uli pafupi kutha. Chifukwa chake, kuti mupulumutse ubale wanu, gwiritsani ntchito makutu anu kwambiri.

2. Funsani mafunso oyenera okha

Ozunzidwa ambiri a PN amakhala naye chifukwa amachita chilichonse kuti munthuyo amve kuti ndi wapadera nthawi zonse. Izi zimawonekera kwambiri pamene banja lake ndi abwenzi amamukonda ndikuwonetsa wokondedwa wake wamatsenga. Ndipo ino ndi nthawi yabwino kuti wozunzidwayo afunse funso: kodi ubalewu ndi wofunika kapena ayi?

3. Limbikitsani zomwe zili zabwino

Malinga ndi akatswiri, kulimbikitsa zabwino kumathandizadi kuwongolera khalidwe la munthu wopondereza wankhanza komanso kumathandiza wozunzidwayo kukhala naye bwino. Kuphatikiza apo, kudzidalira kwa PN pakakhala nkhawa kumakula bwino.

4. Khalani osamala

Pochita izi, mnzako woyipa woyipayo ayamba kukhala ndi moyo wabwino. Kuchita chidwi kumathandiza NP kuzindikira kuyamba kwa mkwiyo wawo ndikusintha maganizo awo nthawi yomweyo. Kuti mnzanu avomereze kutero, muyenera kuyesa kaye. Kenako, pang’onopang’ono musonyezeni za mchitidwewo.

5. Muziona zinthu moyenera nthawi zonse

M’pofunika kwambiri kuti wozunzidwayo achite zinthu mwanzeru. Ayenera kukumbukira kuti umunthu wa PN sudzasintha koma khalidwe lake lidzasintha pakapita nthawi. Choncho, wozunzidwayo ayenera kudziwa zomwe zimawakopa kwa munthuyo.

Kodi mungatuluke bwanji muubwenzi ndi PN?

Pali ozunzidwa ndi PN omwe amaganiza kuti angawathandize kuchoka ku khalidwe lawo lachipongwe. Komabe, anthu amwano safuna kuthandizidwa chifukwa amadziona kuti ndi abwino. Malinga ndi anthuwa, mavuto nthawi zonse amachokera kwa ena. Ngakhale akatswiri a zamaganizo sangapeze yankho ndi anthu opotoza a narcissistic. Ngati avomereza thandizo lochokera kwa akatswiri a zamaganizo, ndiko kuwathandiza kuchoka ku kupsinjika maganizo.

Opotoza a Narcissistic sadzavomereza zolakwa zawo. Chifukwa chake, amasiya kupita kukakumana ndi katswiri wazamisala. Akangovomereza zolakwa zawo, ozunzidwawo ayenera kudzipatula nthawi yomweyo kwa iwo. Ndithudi, zidzakhala zovuta kuti ozunzidwa achoke, choncho kufunikira kwa chithandizo cha akatswiri. Momwemonso, thandizo lochokera kwa okondedwa.

Yakwana nthawi yoti lekani kudandaula za mnzako. Iye ali wotsimikiza kuti sadzasinthanso. Kuti muwonetsetse kuti mutuluka muubwenzi, muyenera kutero sinthani manambala anu onse monga nambala yafoni, imelo adilesi, etc. Osasiya zosokoneza izi m'moyo wanu watsopano. 

Maumboni a m’Baibulo onena za “motani mungakhale ndi munthu wopotoza wankhanza”?

Nawa ntchito zisanu ndi ziwiri zosankhidwa mu Chifalansa zokhudzana ndi kukhalira limodzi ndi munthu yemwe ali ndi mikhalidwe yosokoneza komanso yosokoneza:

  1. "Onyenga ndi Chikondi: Kuchita ndi Narcissistic Perverts"
    Wolemba: Isabelle Nazare-Aga
    Wosindikiza: Zolemba za Homme
    Année : 2013
  2. “Kuvutitsidwa ndi Makhalidwe: Chiwawa choipitsitsa pamoyo watsiku ndi tsiku”
    Wolemba: Marie-France Hirigoyen
    Wosindikiza: Zithunzi za La DĂ©couverte
    Année : 1998
  3. "Osokoneza Narcissistic: Ndi Ndani? Kodi zimagwira ntchito bwanji? Kodi athawe bwanji? »
    Wolemba: Jean-Charles Bouchoux
    Wosindikiza: Editions Eyrolles
    Année : 2010
  4. "Kukhala ndi manipulator"
    Wolemba: Christel Petitcollin
    Wosindikiza: Zolemba za Guy Trédaniel
    Année : 2010
  5. "Onyenga ali pakati pathu"
    Wolemba: Isabelle Nazare-Aga
    Wosindikiza: Zolemba za Homme
    Année : 1997
  6. "Kusokoneza maganizo mwa anthu okwatirana: Kuchita ndi munthu wosokoneza maganizo"
    Wolemba: Pascale Chapaux-Morelli and Pascal Couderc
    Wosindikiza: Editions Eyrolles
    Année : 2009
  7. "Narcissistic Personalities"
    Wolemba: Alberto Eiguer
    Wosindikiza: Dunod Editions
    Année : 2014

Mabukuwa amapereka malingaliro ozama komanso malangizo othandiza kuti mumvetsetse ndikuwongolera maubwenzi ndi anthu omwe ali ndi makhalidwe oipa.

Kutsiliza

Kulimbana ndi munthu wopotoza wa narcissistic ndizovuta zamaganizo komanso zamaganizo. Ndikofunikira kuzindikira zizindikirozo, kukhalabe ndi thanzi labwino m'maganizo ndipo, ngati kuli kofunikira, funani thandizo kwa akatswiri ndi okondedwa kuti mudzipulumutse kwa iwo. Kumvetsetsa ndi kukhala tcheru ndi njira zazikulu zopezera ufulu wodzilamulira komanso kumanga moyo wokhutiritsa, kutali ndi poizoni.

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Cristina Balan
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