Momwe mungayendetsere misala ya Narcissistic Pervert?

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Yendetsani munthu wopotoza narcissistic wamisala !!! Mumaganiza kuti mukuvutika kwambiri kotero kuti mukutaya chimwemwe chanu, kuti mulibenso ufulu wosangalala. Zonsezi ndichifukwa choti mwazindikira kuti muli ndi munthu wopotoza wamatsenga. Palibe chomwe chatayika, werengani malingaliro awa ndipo muwona kuti mutha kuthana ndi izi modekha.

Kodi mungapangire bwanji munthu wopotoza wa narcissistic kupenga za inu? 7 malangizo

1. Dziwonetseni nokha

Zosavuta, dzipangitseni kukhala wokongola, valani modabwitsa kuti mukope chidwi chake. Popeza iye amayang'ana kwambiri zokopa ndi zozungulira zake, kupezeka kwanu ndi mawonekedwe anu zidzakhudza chikhalidwe chake cha narcissistic. Maso enanso adzakhala pa inu ndipo ndiye mfundo yonse.  

2. Khalani wodzitukumula pomuzungulira

Narcissists amakonda pamene chidwi chili pa iwo. Chisamaliro cha amene ali pafupi naye chimaika patsogolo mwamsanga pamene iye afika, ndipo adzatsimikizira kusunga mwaŵi umenewu. Imani pomunyalanyaza mwadala, kumachita ngati simukumumva kapena kumuona. Adzachenjezedwa.

3. Ikani patsogolo maubwenzi ndi omwe akuzungulirani

Ikani patsogolo ubale wanu wabanja. Tulukani, sangalalani, idyani chakudya chamadzulo ndi banja lanu nthawi iliyonse yomwe mukufuna, zidzakhudza kudzikonda kwake. Khalani ndi nthawi yocheza ndi anzanu apamtima kapenanso anzanu. Anthu awa sangakukhumudwitseni monga momwe iye amachitira. Adzakulamulirani pang'ono podziwa izi, mudziwitse kudzera mu maubwenzi awa kuti ndinu omasuka kukhala pafupi ndi aliyense.

4. Sewerani ulemu ndi umbuli nthawi imodzi

Amayamika kwambiri kuyamikiridwa ndi kuyang'ana koyipa nthawi zonse. Dziwani momwe mungapangire kukoma mtima ndi kuzizira nthawi imodzi, kuti asokonezeke msanga. Adzakhala ndi vuto lalikulu kukumvetsetsani poyang'anizana ndi kusintha koteroko.  

5. Khalani ndi mtima wodziletsa kwa iye

Osatengeka mtima kwambiri. Khalani osungika kwa iye, ngakhale mutakhala openga m'chikondi. Ngati muulula zakukhosi kwanu mokwanira, chikokacho chimakhala chachikulu.

6. Osamuyamikira

Kuti muyambe kudziona kuti ndinu wapamwamba kwa mnzanuyo, pewani kumuyamikira. Podziwa kuti chikondi chimakupangitsani kutentha thupi komanso kukondana mopambanitsa, nthawi zambiri timayiwala kuti anthu okondana narciss amadya zinthu izi. Khazikitsani malire ndikusunga zoyamikira zanu, mudzakhala ndi nkhawa zochepa.  

7. Mpangitseni kuti akuthamangitseni

Mfundo ya "ndithaweni, ndimakutsatirani" zimangokhala zovomerezeka pamaso pa opotoza a narcissistic. Khazikitsani mtunda pakati panu. Ngati mumakhala naye nthawi zonse, amatopa msanga ndipo adzakhala ndi ufulu wambiri. Nthawi zonse yesetsani kuchoka, pang'onopang'ono, pamapeto pake mudzamubweretsanso kwa inu.

Mawu 3 omwe angapangitse munthu wopotoza misala

Ngati mukuganiza kuti muli pakhoma podziwa kuti mnzanuyo ndi wopotoza, zonse sizitayika. Izi 3 mawu adzakuthandizani kwambiri mukayamba kukambirana naye.

A priori, wopotoza wa narcissistic sakonda mayankho osamveka bwino kapena osamveka bwino. Koposa zonse, amafuna kudziwa malingaliro anu pamutu uliwonse. Dziwani kuti nthawi zina, amakuyankhani potengera malingaliro anu, osazindikira ake.

  1. "Ngati mwatero" ou "ngati mukuganiza choncho" : yankho lotchedwa "standard"'li lidzakupulumutsani ku chikoka cha anthu opotoza malingaliro anu. Adzakhalabe mumdima ndipo sadzatha kukukakamizaninso mawu ake.
  2. "Mukuganiza zomwe mukufuna, ndinu mfulu": pamenepo sadzapeza yankho lomwe akufuna. Mumam’patsa ufulu wosankha monga mmene mumamuchotsera mwayi wodziwa maganizo anu enieni pa nkhani imene mukukambirana. Musiye kukayika, mudzakhala omasuka pang'onopang'ono.
  3. Yankho losavuta kwambiri ndi "Chabwino" kapena "Chabwino": kuyankha komwe sikumaphatikizapo chisangalalo kapena mkwiyo kapena chisoni poyang'anizana ndi wopotoza wankhanza. Mumamuyankha mopepuka, mopanda kukangana ndipo izi zidzamupangitsa kukhala wokomoka chifukwa sadzakhala ndi mphamvu pa inu.

Kodi ndizotheka kupanga wopotoza wankhanza kukhala wamisala mchikondi? 

Mwasweka pakati pa chikondi ndi zowawa m'moyo wanu ubale woopsa. Mnzanu yemwe ndi wopotoza wankhanza amapangitsa moyo wanu kukhala wosatheka.

Koma kuti ayambe kukondana, khalani tcheru ndi khalidwe lake ndi maganizo ake. Amawoneka wanzeru komanso aluntha kwambiri;

  • Kukopa ndiye chinthu chofunikira kwambiri cha munthu wopotoza wamatsenga: amakopa kwambiri kunyengerera nyama yake ndikumupangitsa kuti azimukonda.

Mudzaonanso kuti ali ndi kudziletsa kotheratu, ndipo amadziwa kunyengezera chilakolako choyaka moto kuti musangalale kwambiri. Kaŵirikaŵiri amakopeka ndi anthu a ziyeneretso, kukongola kwakukulu, kapena anthu achifundo ndi aulemu chabe.

  • Chifundo: Malinga ndi kafukufuku, chifundo chawo chimalephereka, n’chifukwa chake ali poizoni m’chilengedwe. Munthu amene ali ndi vuto la umunthu wa narcissistic alibe luso lopereka chikondi kwa mnansi wake.

Malangizo kutsatira

Malangizo awa tsopano akuwonetsani kuti muli panjira yopita kupanga chikondi, popanda kudalira 100%:

  1. Kuchita bwino m'moyo wanu

Ndi njira yabwino yopezera chidwi chake ndikupambana. Zonse mwaukadaulo komanso mwamalingaliro, muwonetseni kuti mutha kupeza zomwe mwagwira ntchito.

  1. Chotsani kulumikizana

Podalira njira yothamangitsira, mudzamunyengerera kumalo anu, ndikumupeza ali pachiwopsezo kuposa masiku onse. Ndi misampha yake yolamulira chilichonse, adzataya mphamvu mukamadzitalikitsa. Adzayamba kukayikira mmene akumvera.

  1. Pitilirani

Mofanana ndi ubwenzi uliwonse umene wawononga wozunzidwayo, njira yabwino yochiritsira ndiyo kupita patsogolo. Narcissists omwe amakonda kulamulira ndikupeza mphamvu pa ozunzidwawo adzapeza kuti akulandidwa mphamvu zawo. Mukuyenera kusangalala, chisangalalo komanso mtendere koposa zonse. Gwiritsani ntchito mwayiwu.

Cristina Balan
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