Kukhala ndi Apongozi Wolakwika - Kodi Mumamva Bwanji?

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Nthano ya apongozi ankhanza kwa mpongozi wake kapena mpongozi wake nthawi zambiri imatsitsidwa paudindo wa filimu ndi mndandanda wa zolemba. Inde, kukhalapo kwa a mayi wopeza wonyenga ikuwonetsani zomwe Machiavellian komanso munthu wonyenga ali.

Momwe mungazindikire apongozi apongozi?

Kudziwa mungazindikire bwanji apongozi onyenga? Uyenera kudziwa kale kuti apongozi opotoka onyenga ndi chiyani. Iye ndi munthu wa Machiavellian yemwe amayesa kudzipereka yekha m'moyo wa mkazi kapena mnzake wa mwana wake. Malinga ndi ziwerengero, 25% ya apongozi awo akuti sakugwirizana ndi apongozi awo. Ndipo 60% amakhala ndi maubwenzi oyipa kwambiri ndi amayi a anzawo.

Nthawi zambiri imabisala mu zifukwa monga: “Ndimakukondani kwambiri,” “Ndikunena izi kuti mupindule nazo”. Nazi njira zozindikirira:

  • Adzafuna kuti apereke maganizo ake, kapenanso kuumiriza banjali pa chilichonse chimene amachita.
  • Apongozi wopotoka wa narcissistic adzakhalanso ndi vuto kuvomereza kutsutsidwa.
  • Kwa ana, iye adzadziwonetsera yekha kukhala wolemera kwambiri, ngakhale kupita ku njira zankhanza zoika a maganizo oipa.
  • Amatha kusonyeza khalidwe lachiwawa polankhula ndi anthu omwe ali pafupi naye.

Zida 5 zosokoneza apongozi a Narcissistic Pervert 

Kuti akwaniritse cholinga chake, apongozi a narcissistic amatha kuwongolera njira zosiyanasiyana. Adzawagwiritsa ntchito kukhazikitsa masomphenya ake. Mphamvu zake nthawi zambiri zimadalira pa siteji.

Njira monga blackmail ndizofala kwambiri, ndiye nazi zitsanzo:

  1. Misozi ya Ng'ona: Apongozi angaoneke ali wachisoni. Adzaonetsetsa kuti mwana wake wamwamuna ndi mpongozi wake akukhudzidwa ndi vuto lake kuti amumvere chisoni. Zithunzi zamisozi zokumbukira zakale, mabodza opangidwa bwino. Adzamupatsa sewero labwino kwambiri kuti achepetse mtima wanu.
  2. Kugwiritsa ntchito mphamvu zachuma: Apongozi angayese kuwanyengerera ndi thandizo la ndalama. Koma izi nthawi zambiri zimalumikizidwa ndi quid pro quo yochita zomwe akunena nthawi zonse.
  3. Zoyipa zamalingaliro: Chida chimenechi chimamuthandiza kwambiri akamaona kuti palibe vuto. Komanso, pamene awiriwa amawoneka ovuta kukopa. Mayi wokhotakhota wokhotakhota adzatembenuzira ana ku kholo lawo. Chida ichi chimalola apongozi kukhala ndi mphamvu zambiri pa banjali ngati maganizo manipulator.
  4. Sinthani mlanduwo kwa awiriwa: Njira imeneyi ndi yodziwika bwino kwa anthu opotoza a narcissistic. Kumaphatikizapo kupanga wozunzidwayo kudzimva kukhala wolakwa pa mkhalidwe wa wopotokayo. Motero ana a mayi wopezawo adzadzimva kukhala ndi mlandu. Angagwiritsenso ntchito mawu opweteka mwa kuwatcha osayamika ndi opanda chifundo.
  5. Gwiritsani ntchito udindo wanu ngati mayi: Angagwiritse ntchito njira imeneyi kwa mwana wake kuti akutsutseni. Izi zikutanthauza kuti simudzakhalanso ndi chichirikizo cha mwamuna kapena mkazi wanu.

Zotsatira za khalidwe la apongozi ankhanza pa wozunzidwayo

Khalidwe la mayi wopeza wamwano lingakhale ndi chiyambukiro chakuya ndi chosatha kwa wozunzidwayo, nthawi zambiri mpongozi wake kapena mpongozi wake wamwamuna. Pano pali kusanthula kwatsatanetsatane kwa izi:

1. Kusadzidalira

  • Kutsutsa kosalekeza : Apongozi amwano amangokhalira kudzudzula wozunzidwayo, zomwe zingawononge ulemu wa wozunzidwayo pang’onopang’ono.
  • Kuyerekeza kosayenera : Akhoza kuyerekezera wozunzidwayo mosayenera ndi anthu ena, kulimbitsa malingaliro odzikayikira.
  • Kusavomerezeka kwa malingaliro : Pochepetsa kapena kukana malingaliro a wozunzidwayo, angapangitse wozunzidwayo kukayikira malingaliro ake ndi malingaliro ake.

2. Nkhawa yosatha ndi kupsinjika maganizo

  • Kuyenda pa zipolopolo za mazira : Wozunzidwayo akhoza kukhala ndi nkhawa nthawi zonse, nthawi zonse kuopa kuyambitsa maganizo oipa kuchokera kwa apongozi.
  • Kuyembekezera mikangano : Kupanikizika chifukwa choyembekezera kucheza ndi banja kungakhale kovuta.
  • Kusintha : Nkhawa ingadziwonetsere kudzera mu zizindikiro za thupi monga mutu, vuto la kugaya chakudya kapena kugona.

3. Kusokonekera kwa ubale wabanja

  • Kusamvana m'banja : Ubwenzi wapakati pa wochitiridwayo ndi wokondedwa wake ukhoza kusokonekera, makamaka ngati wokondedwayo sazindikira kapena kuyendetsa bwino khalidwe la mayi ake.
  • Kudzipatula kwa banja : Wozunzidwayo akhoza kutalikirana ndi achibale ake kuti apewe kuyanjana ndi apongozi amwano.
  • Zokhudza ana : Ngati wozunzidwayo ali ndi ana, akhoza kukumana ndi zovuta za m'banja kapena kugwiritsidwa ntchito ngati zopondereza apongozi.

4. Kudzikayikira ndi kusokonezeka

  • kuyatsa gasi : Apongozi a narcissistic amatha kugwiritsa ntchito njira zosokoneza maganizo, zomwe zimapangitsa wozunzidwayo kukayikira zenizeni zake.
  • Kutaya chidaliro pa chiweruzo cha munthu : Podzifunsa okha, wozunzidwayo amatha kutaya chidaliro pa luso lake lopanga zisankho.
  • Kusokonezeka maganizo : Wozunzidwayo akhoza kukumana ndi malingaliro otsutsana, kusinthasintha pakati pa chikhumbo chofuna kulandiridwa ndi kukwiya chifukwa cha kuchitiridwa nkhanza.

5. Zotsatira za thanzi labwino la maganizo

  • Kusokonezeka : Kukumana ndi malo oopsa kwa nthawi yayitali kungayambitse matenda ovutika maganizo.
  • Post-traumatic stress disorder (PTSD) : Zikavuta kwambiri, wozunzidwayo amatha kukhala ndi zizindikiro za PTSD.
  • Generalized nkhawa matenda : Nkhawa yosatha imatha kukhala matenda oda nkhawa kwambiri padziko lonse lapansi, omwe amakhudza mbali zosiyanasiyana za moyo.

6. Mavuto a ubale

  • Kusakhulupirirana kofala : Wozunzidwayo akhoza kuyamba kuvutika kukhulupirira anthu ena, kuphatikizapo zibwenzi zakunja kwa banja.
  • Kujambula zithunzi : Popanda kuzindikira ndi ntchito yochizira, pali chiopsezo chotulutsanso mphamvu zapoizoni mu maubwenzi ena.
  • Kuvuta kukhazikitsa malire : Wozunzidwayo akhoza kukhala ndi vuto lokhazikitsa ndi kusunga malire abwino mu ubale wamtsogolo.

Momwe mungapulumutsire ubale wanu bwino ndi apongozi a narcissistic?

Kuti mupulumutse ubale wanu, muyenera kudziwa izi Kusangalatsa apongozi si njira yabwino yothetsera vutolo. Musamadzikakamize kukhala momwe amawonetsera. Simudzakhala amene akufuna kumuwona ndi mwana wake. Yesetsani kumusangalatsa ngakhale mutatani adzalimbitsa mphamvu imene ali nayo pa iwe, ndi kumturutsa zochulukira umunthu wapoizoni.

Njira yabwino ndikutsegula maso a mnzanu kuti adziwe kuti apongozi anu ndi opotoka. Zowonadi, ndikofunikira kuti chomalizacho chikhale kumbali yanu. Zidzakhala zotheka kuti musonkhane kuti musiye zomwe apongozi anu ankhanza akufuna kuchita. Ngati mulibe iye kumbali yanu, zidzakhala zovuta kusunga kapena kusunga ubale wanu.

Kodi ndizotheka kuthawa apongozi a Pervert Narcissistic?

Inde, n’zotheka kuthaŵa chisonkhezero cha apongozi wopotoka wonyenga. Zili ndi inu kumenyera nkhondo kuti mumasuke ku mphamvu zake. Izi zimafuna kuleza mtima ndi kufunitsitsa. Nthano ya mayi wopeza woyipayo imadza nthawi zambiri ndipo mutha kukangana ndi mnzanu. Komabe, ndikofunikira kutsimikiza kusiya mkhalidwe wapoizoniwu zivute zitani.

Buku lofotokoza za apongozi a narcissistic

Nawu mndandanda wamabuku asanu ndi awiri ofotokoza za mutu wa "narcissistic apongozi":

  1. Racamier, Paul-Claude (1986). "Pakati pa zowawa zama psychic, kukana kwamalingaliro ndi kupotoza kwachipongwe". Magazini ya ku France ya psychoanalysis, ndege. 50, no.
  2. Joly, Marc ndi Roquebert, Corentin (2021). "Kuyambira kwa mayi wopondereza mpaka kwa mkazi wankhanza." Zilsel: Sayansi, ukadaulo, gulu.
  3. Fromm-Reichmann, Frieda (1948). "Zolemba pakukula kwa chithandizo cha schizophrenics ndi psychoanalytic psychotherapy". Psychiatry, ndege. 11, no.
  4. Nosal, Serge (2020). Kusazindikira komanso narcissism pachiwopsezo cha malire akuti: kumutu wachitatu. Thesis ya udokotala, HAL.
  5. Diguer, Louis et al. (2010). "Kutsimikizika kwa mtundu wolankhula Chifalansa wa Pathological Narcissism Inventory". Pathological Narcissism Inventory.
  6. Psychologist.net (2024). “Kodi amayi ankhanza amasokoneza komanso kuvulaza ana awo? ".
  7. Durand, G. (2020). "(Kuti) lingalirani chithunzi cha apongozi opanda mwana m'chitsanzo chosakanikirana cha banja." Quebec Journal of Psychology.

Maumboni awa akupereka dongosolo lomvetsetsa machitidwe a narcissistic mkati mwa ubale wabanja ndi mphamvu ndi apongozi.

Kutsiliza

Pomaliza, ubale ndi mayi wopeza woyipa ukhoza kukhudza kwambiri malingaliro, malingaliro, komanso ubale wa omwe akuzunzidwawo. Kusokoneza maganizo, kuipidwa maganizo ndi kudzudzulidwa kosalekeza kungayambitse kunyozeka kwa kudzidalira, kuda nkhawa kosatha, ndi kukangana muubwenzi. Komabe, ndizotheka kudzimasula nokha ku chikokachi podziwa zachinyengo ndikupeza chithandizo kuchokera kwa okondedwa anu. Kulankhulana momveka bwino komanso malire olimba ndikofunikira kuti ubale ukhale wabwino ndikupewa kugwera munjira yoyipa.

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