Lack of Self-Confidence – Understand and Heal!

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Le lack of self-confidence can be permanent or random in people who suffer from it. Whether you are rich or poor, young or old, you can suffer from insecurity within you. But, the majority of people with a lack of self-confidence are women. In this article, you will see the causes, consequences, manifestations and tips for getting out of lack of self-confidence. 

Lack of self-confidence – What is it?

Lack of self-confidence is a kind of behavioral lock-in that prevents a person from being productive. A person who lacks self-confidence can no longer make a decision and increasingly avoids contact with others. Thus, she isolates herself completely.

This lack of confidence makes a person sad, anxious, distressed and ashamed of themselves. She is not at all happy with what she is doing. Indeed, the victims of lack of self-confidence are blocked by a great fear that settles in them.

Lately, more and more people are suffering from self-confidence whether in love, at work, physically or psychologically. Therefore, everyone is looking for a way to heal the lack of self-confidence they suffer from.

Where does this lack of self-confidence come from?

  • The lack of self-confidence comes from several situations. First, the lack of self-confidence could be a result of what the person experienced during childhood. It could be that her parents are very attached to her, so she can no longer do anything on her own.
  • People who have been victims of trauma, physical violence or sexual have a lack of self-confidence. Feelings of insecurity and inferiority also cause a person to lose their self-confidence.
  • This lack is caused by the environment in which the person lives. The world today has a habit of criticizing, blaming, harassing others. Lack of confidence can start in childhood but also only start in adulthood.
  • In any case, the lack of self-confidence can also come from a personality disorder. Victims of narcissistic perverts are examples of people who are insecure because of their partners.

The consequences of lack of self-confidence in daily life

  • A person who lacks self-confidence isolates himself completely from the outside world.
  • She is afraid of what other people think and cannot look a person in the face.
  • Abandons professional and private goals.
  • She can no longer give her opinion on a situation and never expresses her feelings.
  • When a person is insecure, he doesn't think about what his future might look like. She doesn't give a damn about her life.
  • The person becomes increasingly depressed and may end up committing suicide.

The different signs of lack of self-confidence in a couple

When a person with a lack of self-confidence gets into a relationship, it is logical that they have no confidence in their relationship. Here are the symptoms that show that you or your partner is lacking in self-confidence.

1. The person needs to be reassured about their partner's feelings

The first sign to spot to know a person who lacks self-confidence is their excessive need to be reassured about how their partner feels towards them. In fact, when a person is insecure, they can't believe their partner really loves them. Thus, she always asks the other to prove her love.

She is never reassured no matter what proof her partner gives her. When your partner lacks confidence in your relationship, it is certain that he has already more or less succeeded in gaining confidence in her personally. As soon as she gets into a relationship, her lack of self-confidence resurfaces.

2. The person needs to be reassured about their value

She also needs her partner to reassure her of his worth. To have confidence, she always needs a word from her partner. But, the self-esteem of the person is also affected. It is certain that this represents a threat for their couple. In a person lacking in self-confidence, emotional dependence gains a very important place. At worst, an insecure person's partner could abuse them.

3. She always puts herself down

Insecure people just put themselves down all the time. By having a low self-esteem and a lack of self-confidence, the person will undoubtedly have a disorder of the image of himself. She will always think that she is not doing anything good in her life and her marriage. Suddenly, she thinks she is not worthy of this relationship.

4. The person is very jealous and very touchy.

An insecure person is always extremely jealous (jealousy of the narcissistic pervert). Thus, his confidence in his partner is also very low. The person constantly suspects the sincerity of his partner's love.

In addition to being jealous, she is also very touchy. It can be seen in public but she is much more intense within her relationship. Her partner always tries to be positive to avoid the worst. The fear of abandonment pushes a person in lack of confidence to be very touchy.

5. Cannot handle conflicts

People who suffer from this problem never manage to face conflicts. This is why their partners often tend to end the argument as soon as possible. In case of conflict, the partners of people who suffer from lack of self-confidence only console and reassure them.

How to cure low self-confidence?

The best remedy to cure lack of self-confidence is to make an appointment with a psychologist. Without benefiting from outside help, it is very difficult to get by. With the help of a professional, it is much easier to discuss your problem. Its purpose is to help you live happily with the people around you. So, if you feel that you are lacking in self-confidence, consult a psychologist immediately.

Bibliographic reference on “lack of self-confidence”

Here are seven bibliographical references on the theme of lack of self-confidence:

  1. Bourgeois, J., & Dejours, C. (2010). Self-confidence: a challenge for education. Editions L'Harmattan.
  2. Bourgeois, M. (2015). Self-confidence: understanding and acting. Eyrolles Editions.
  3. Brun, L., & Lemoine, P. (2017). Self-confidence: a major asset in the professional environment. French Management Review, 43(3), 123-137.
  4. Gagnepain, P. (2016). Self-confidence: origins and consequences. Psychology and Society, 9(1), 45-60.
  5. Guillemot, M. (2014). Developing self-confidence: practical strategies and tools. De Boeck Editions.
  6. Léger, A. (2018). Lack of self-confidence and personal success: a psychological approach. Health Psychology, 23(2), 89-104.
  7. Valley, C. (2019). Self-confidence and self-esteem: two key psychological issues. Psychology and Psychiatry, 27(4), 210-225.

These references can provide you with a solid foundation to deepen your understanding of low self-confidence.

Conclusion

In conclusion, low self-esteem is a complex challenge that affects many people, often with profound consequences on their daily lives and relationships. It is crucial to recognize the signs of this phenomenon and seek help, especially from professionals such as psychologists, to regain healthy self-esteem. By taking concrete steps, everyone can work to overcome their insecurities and build a more fulfilling life.

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