La narcissistic perversion haisati yambotaurwa nezvayo kupfuura izvozvi. Unenge uri kushamisika kuti maitiro aya anozviratidza sei. Hwaro huri kureva nhema, kuisa munhu wacho oga uye kuita kuti anzwe aine mhosva. Zvinonetsa kutsanangura maitiro akadai kana uchipengesana newawakaroorana naye kana mukadzi wako.
Hukama nemunhu ane manipulator - Hukama huri kufamba sei?
Kazhinji, zvinogona kuitika nenzira yekurambidza, sehukama hwevaviri. Iwe hausi kuona chero chinhu chisina kunaka chiri kuuya mumavhiki anopfuura. Asi kutanga, iye achava nesimba pamusoro pako, kuti iwe ude zvakazara naye.
Zvinosimbiswa kubva pakutanga kuti rudzi urwu rwemunhu runogonawo kuva mukadzi.
Nemunhu uyu, unototenda murudo pakutanga pakuona, kunzwa kwausina kunzwa kwenguva refu. Rudo rwenyu rwakafanana, zvese zvinoita sezvakanaka, uye mese muri kutotanga kutarisa kure mune ramangwana.
- Mashoko orudo nezviratidziro zvorudo zvinokurumidza kuderedzwa nokunyomba nokunyomba. Unoona kuti dzimwe nguva anoita seasiri murudo zvachose.
- Uye ipapo, iwe unotanga kuona anomalies mumasaini ake, uye kunyanya mumashoko ake. Asi munhu anenge abatwa achaita shuwa kuti zvese zvangove kusanzwisisana uye fungidziro. Chikonzero ndechokuti anokuziva zvakakwana zvokukwanisa kukubata sezvaanoda.
- Ipapo kunouya kunyadziswa paruzhinji, pakuungana kwemhuri, panguva yekudya nevaunoshanda navo kana pakati peshamwari dzepedyo. Anoita jee pamusoro pako mukunakidzwa kwese, uye pasina chinangwa chakaipa, kunyangwe zvichikukuvadza zvakananga. Anobva atokuvhiringa nezvikonzero zvaari kuita achiti zvaingove zvekutamba chete '' joke'' .
Munhu anonyengedza anogona kuchinja rudo here?
Isu tinototenda kuti mhinduro yemubvunzo uyu inogona kubvisa kusava nechokwadi kwedu kwese. Sezvo munhu achipengeswa murudo nemunhu uyu, mhinduro ngaive YES, nekuti rudo runodzima zvakaipa zvese uye rwunoshandura hunhu hwevanhu. Sezvineiwo mhinduro ndeyekuti, KWETE.
Kutanga, tinotanga nemudzi wedambudziko, iyo munyengeri akaipa hazvizoshanduki. Maererano ne psychotherapist, “kana akasakanganiswa, simba rerudo rinogona kuramba riripo” (Anne-Clotilde Ziegler).
Ngwarira kuchengeta tariro dzisina maturo dzokuti munhu wacho achachinja. Kunyange ukamupa rudo rwese uye kutarisirwa kwaanoda, haakwanisi kuchinja. Ratidza kuti unokodzera zvirinani, kuti akakodzera kudiwa newe.
Unogona here kuita kuti narcissistic manipulator awire murudo?
Pasina kuda kudzikamisa kunyengera kwako, narcissistic manipulation ndiyo yekutanga uye yekutanga pathology. Icho chinotova chirwere chepfungwa. Munhu anorwara haana manzwiro, izvo zvinoita kuti zviome zvikuru kuva noukama hworudo nomunhuwo zvake.
Zvisinei, dambudziko guru maererano nenyanzvi, “paanokuda zvakanyanya, ndipo paanonyanya kukuparadza. » Saka kana iwe uchifunga nezve kuchengetedza hukama hunogara nemunhu ane chirwere chakadaro, rudo harumbofi rwakakwana. Anogona achiri kuedzesera rutsva kana rudo rwechokwadi, nekuda kwekunakidzwa kwako kukuru. Chenjera, kuita kuti ade murudo hazvizove nyore.
Kana iwe ukabvunza huchapupu hwevanhu vakambobatwa, unoona kuti 90% yavo yaona kuti manipulator haana kuchinja uye haashanduke. Unoziva zvawaitarisira.
Sei iyo narcissistic isingakwanisi kuchinja?
Ane tsika yekupa mhosva pane zvese pane vamwe. Haambogamuchire zvikanganiso zvake, uye mhedzisiro yezviito zvake. Kuti achinje, uye kunyanya nekuda kwerudo, anofanira kushandisa maitiro ake matatu asingaparadzanisiki:
- Ngaazive dambudziko raainaro, uye raakonzera kuburikidza nekukanganisa kwake;
- Ngaanzwe kudiwa kwekuvandudza, kuitira kuti shanduko iitike;
- Ngaaite saizvozvo;
Pamusoro pazvose, usavimbe nemashoko ake, ayo asina kunyanya kukosha uye anobata kumeso. Tarisa zviito zvake, zviito zvake kuti unyatsonzwisisa zvinangwa zvake zvekuchinja.
Zvimwe, anofarira kuzvitutumadza kuti akuise pasi. Pamusoro pazvo, munyengeri wenarcissistic anoziva kutaura pamusoro pake semunhu ane chipo cheuchenjeri neruzivo, ane tsika, kuti usafarire zvikuru. Iye manipulator anoda kupinda munhaurirano dzisina maturo kuti akutsamwise pazvinhu zvakawanda, senge matambudziko emhuri, hukama hwake hwekare, matambudziko ako newako.
Nzira yekuziva sei kana manipulator anokuda?
Kuziva kana munyengeri achida munhu wake kwakaoma. Kazhinji, vanhu verudzi urwu vanoziva nzira yekunyepera rudo chairwo, sevanhuwo zvavo.
Maererano ne psychotherapist, "chikara chinoda sekuda kwaunoita chinhu chinokupa mukurumbira". Kana iwe ukatarisisa maitiro ake, uchaona kuti acharidza kupisa uye kutonhora, kuti narcissistic kutsveyamisa nhema otomatiki muzvinhu zvose uye pamusoro pazvose, haazombove akajeka mumanzwiro ake.
Zvinogona kuve kuti iwe unonzwa kuwirirana, nekuti hongu, kuchave nekuchinjana kwekutarisa, zviratidzo zvakasiyana zverudo uye rudo, asi izvi ndezvekunyepedzera, kunyangwe utopian.
Bibliographic reference
Heano mareferensi manomwe ebhaibheri anogadzirisa mubvunzo wemukana wekuti munyengeri achinje rudo:
- Hirigoyen, M.-F (1998). Kushungurudzwa kwetsika: Kushungurudza mhirizhonga zuva nezuva. Paris: Syros.
- Tisseron, S. (2010). Zvakavanzika zvemhuri: Kubva pakutapurirwa kuenda kune zvakazarurwa. Paris: PUF.
- Cyrulnik, B. (2001). Nhamo yakanakisa. Paris: Odile Jacob.
- Salome, J. (2004). Ushingi hwekuva iwe. Paris: Albin Michel.
- Ancelin Schützenberger, A. (1998). Maiwe, madzitateguru angu!. Paris: Desclée de Brouwer.
- Cungi, C., & Lemoine, M. (2008). Zvisimbise uye taurirana. Paris: Retz.
- Lejoyeux, M. (2017). Hunhu hwakaoma. Paris: Odile Jacob.
Aya mabasa anopa maonero akasiyana-siyana pahunhu hwehunhu hwekunyengera uye mubvunzo wekuhugadzirisa kuburikidza nerudo.
mhedziso
Chokwadi chinotaurika, munhu anonyengedza haakwanisi kuchinja. Kune rumwe rutivi, inogona kuratidza mhindumupindu maererano noutera hwemhuka yayo. Kana iwe uchinzwa kutya kwakajairwa kana kusava nechokwadi, anoziva nzira yekuzvishandisa kutsvaga shanduko pasina iyo inogara.
Kazhinji, munhu anonyengedza anogona kuchinja, mushure mekuona kukuvadza kwaakaita vakamupoteredza. Anofanira kutanga akwanisa kuziva hwaro chaihwo hwezvinetso zvake nokudaro ndokurwisana namadhemoni ake ekare kuti awane ikoku.
Kuchinja uku hakugone kutsamira pauri asi paari chete. Tinofanira kuzarura maziso ake kuzviito zvake, kumuudza zvakananga pamusoro pezvikanganiso zvake pasina kugadzirisa. Iyi nzira ndeimwe yezvisingawanzo mhinduro kune yake pathology.
Kuda wanga wakatarisira chishamiso chakaerekana asi usanyengerwa. Shanduko yechokwadi chete inobva kune mumwe nemumwe wedu, kuburikidza nemweya wedu.
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Inzira zvakare yekubatsira vanhu, sezvo ini ndave ndichikwanisa kuwana rubatsiro kubva kune vandisingazive ini muhupenyu hwangu hwese. Iko hakuna chete narcissistic vatsveyama munyika ino uye nerombo rakanaka! Pano isu tinobatsira vanhu kunzwisisa zviri kuitika kwavari uye kuenderera kuhupenyu husina narcissists - hupenyu hwako hwepamusoro! Iwe hausi wega uye iwe unogona kuita shanduko kuti urarame hupenyu hunogutsa, huzere nerunyararo, kuwirirana uye rudo!
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