Kana iwe uri muukama nemunhu akatsveyamisa narcissistic, zvese zvinotenderera paari. Zvinovhiringa nekupedza simba. Rimwe zuva, unosarudza kuenda. Kunyange iyi iri nguva inonakidza paunenge uchifamba munzira yakanaka, pane yakaoma nguva yekugadzirisa pakarepo mushure mekurambana narcissist.
Kungoti anokubata semarara hazvirevi kuti kumubvisa kuri nyore. Kurambana kworudzi urwu kunowanzova kumwe kwakaoma zvikuru kukunda. Saka heino chaizvo nzira yekukanganwa narcissistic pervert, kamwe uye zvachose.
Nzira yekukanganwa Narcissistic Pervert? 5 mazano
Zvingave zvakaoma kukanganwa PN, asi matipi ari pazasi anogona kubatsira:
1. Rega Kugadzirisa
Zvinenge zvisingabviri kuedza kuva neukama narcissist. Saka wakapedza nguva yakawanda uchiongorora maitiro ake uye hunhu kuti uedze kunzwisisa mabhora ecurve aakaramba achikanda nzira yako. Mushure mekunge masiya hukama hwenyu hwekushungurudza, iyi tsika yekuongorora inoenderera mberi kusvika waimanikidza kumira.
Pese paunofunga kuti chii chakaipa newawakambodanana naye, zviyeuchidze kuti hausisina hanya nemunhu iyeye uye zvinyoro kurudzira pfungwa dzako kuti dzifunge nezve chimwe chinhu. Itai zvakare uye zvakare. Nyanzvi zhinji dzinoti zvinotora mwedzi mitatu kuti uchinje tsika.
2. Rega kuedza kupembedza maitiro avo
Kuti upedze zvese izvi, waifanira kuita zvikonzero zvehunhu hwake, kuderedza kushungurudzwa kwake, kududzira zvakare nhema dzake, uye tiptoe zvakatenderedza hunyengeri hwake kuitira kuchengetedza runyararo uye kururamisa kugara naye. Paunenge wavasuwa izvozvi - uye iwe uchaita - iwe unotanga kugadzirisa zvakare, uchiti, "Ah, ivo havana kushata."
Usazvidemba. Ramba uchizviyeuchidza kuti sei wasiya kuitira kuti udzivise kushandiswa narcissistic ex wako kana, zvakatoipisisa, kupedzisira wava kudanana navo zvakare.
Nzira yakanakisa yekuita izvi kuchengetedza zero kuonana. Usafone, usatumira mameseji, uye muvhare pasocial media. Pane chikonzero nei iyo yekusaonana mutemo iri zano rinopihwa nevazhinji nyanzvi.
3. Wana nzira dzokukunda nadzo kufunganya kwako
Narcissist wako angangodaro akakuchengeta pamucheto kwemwedzi kana makore, uye system yako yetsinga ingangove ichiri kushanda nenzira iyoyo. Kusiya kunogona kukonzera kushushikana kutsva kana kutya, zvichiita kuti kushushikana kwako kuwedzere. Pamusoro pezvose, zvepabonde zvakamira, uye iwe hausisina dopamine uye oxytocin yakabatsira kuchengeta musoro wako pamusoro pemvura.
Fema zvishoma nezvishoma uye zvakadzama, ita yoga, kutamba, kushambira uye mamwe marudzi ekurovedza muviri. Ita chimwe chinhu zuva nezuva, pese paunoda.
4. Ramba wakabatikana kuti ukanganwe munhu ane narcissistic pervert
Iine iyo narcissistic vatsveyama, hukama hunogara huri pamusoro pesimba. Ivo vanayo, iwe hauna. Iwe unoenda kunze kwenzira yako yekuyedza kugadzirisa zvese, asi haumbosvika ipapo nekuti ivo vanoda kuti urambe uchimhanya, saka vanogona kudhonza cheni yako pese pavanonzwa kuda.
Izvi zvinonzwika zvisingafadzi, uye zvaive, asi zvakazadza nguva. Zvino sezvo pasina ari kuita izvi, pane guru guru mumazuva ako. Hupenyu hauchafadzi zvakadaro.
Kuti utsungirire mamiriro ezvinhu aya, ramba uchiedza zvitsva nezviitwa, uye ita nhamburiko yokuramba uchikurukura neshamwari dzako sezvinobvira. Paunenge uchigara pamba, fungisisa kuti pfungwa dzako dzidzikame. Ziva kuti haufanire kugara uchitsvaga kuzadzikiswa kunze; unogona kuzviwana mukati mako.
5. Usazvipa mhosva
Iye zvino zvaunogona kuona zvakajeka wako wekare nekuda kwenarcissistic kutsveyamisa kwaaive uye kuziva kuti mapatani awakatora nguva yese iyi aive asina kunaka sei, ungangove unonzwa kunyara iwe pachako nekurega makushe achidhonzwa pameso ako kwenguva yakareba. Ungave uchinetseka kuti waigona sei kuva “usina maturo,” “benzi,” kana kuti “unonyengereka” kudaro. Unogona kunyanya kunyara kana uri pedyo nenhengo dzemhuri kana shamwari dzaiziva kare usati wazviita.
Zviitire zvakanaka. Narcissistic perverts inyanzvi mukunyengera (munyengeri akaipa), uye uri munhu. Iwe unogona kunge uine codependency uye kuzviremekedza nyaya dzauchazoda kuongorora kana wave munzvimbo iri nani, asi ikozvino, zviregerere iwe pachako.
Ziva kuti kusava nemhosva kwako chinhu chakanaka. Zvinoreva kuti une moyo wakavhurika uye unovimba, rinova dambudziko kune wako narcissistic akaipa.
6 Maitiro anoita PN kana wafunga kumusiya
Heano maitiro ePN paunofunga kuvasiya:
1. Kuramba uye kushungurudzwa
Paunosarudza kucheka zvisungo zvese uye kukanganwa nezve narcissist, unenge uchivaudza kuti, "Iwe hauna kukosha kwandiri, uye hausi kuzowana chikamu chako chekutarisisa kubva kwandiri." Ichi chimwe chinhu chinotsveyamiswa narcissistic haigone kugamuchira. Naizvozvo, iye achazvidza miganhu yako (sezvaakaita munguva yakapfuura) uye anofuratira zvachose mukana wekusasangana. Nzira chete yekurwisa chiitiko ichi ndeyekuchisimbisa nekusavabata uye kuvavharira kubva kune ese angangoita nzira dzekutaurirana.
2. Kupererwa kunooneka
Munenge mune zvese zviitiko, munhu anotsveyamisa asina kuonana newe anovimba nebhomba rerudo uye nekuyedza kukuhwina kuti utore kutariswa kwaanga achishuvira kubva kwauri. Kana iwe uri kunetseka kana vakakusuwa, ivo vanozviita, asi kwete nenzira ine hutano. Ivo vanoda dhigirii ravo rekunamatwa, rudo uye kuyemura kumashure, kwete iwe. Vaive murudo nepfungwa yekuyemurwa kwete iwe. Ndihwo hukama hwavari kushaya, kwete iwe.
3. Hasha dzechisimba
Pazvinhu zvese zvinoitwa nenarcissists paunovasiya, iyi inogona kunge iri iyo inonyanya kutyisidzira kuchengetedza kwako. Iva nechokwadi chokuti mumwe munhu waunogona kuvimba naye anoziviswa nezvemamiriro acho ezvinhu, saka unogona kuva nomumwe munhu wokuvimba naye kana zvichidiwa. Kusasangana uye kukanganwa nezve narcissistic pervert zvinogona kukuisa munjodzi, kunyanya sezvo ivo vachitarisirwa kuoneka kubasa kwako. Iva wakagadzirira zvakaipisisa, iva nechokwadi chokuti une mhinduro yakagadzirira.
4. Kuzvishungurudza
Kuti uwane tsitsi dzako nedzevamwe, vanyengeri venarcissistic vanowanzotora maitiro nemaitiro anovashungurudza. Ivo vanogadzira emergency kuti uwane tsitsi dzako. Iyi inzira yakajairika yekunyengedza iyo PNs inoshandisa kukwezva iwe kuti udzokere muhukama hwavo.
Sezvatakataura, maitiro e narcissistic anotsveyamisa kusasangana kumiganhu kune chepfu. Mumamiriro ezvinhu akadaro, zvakakosha kuziva kuti hazvina kunaka kuti usapindura kana achinge aita zvekukurumidzira kana kuti anokuda. Kunyange zviri nyore kunzwisisa kuti tsitsi dzinogona sei kuita kuti usiye kuonana, narcissists vanowanzo shandisa nzira iyi kuti vakukwezve. Tsitsi handizvo zvavaitsvaga pakutanga.
5. Manipulation uye gaslighting
La kunyengera bv Le kubatidza gasi ndiwo maitiro akajairika auchasangana nawo kana usisaonane narcissist. Mukuedza kuwana simba pamusoro pako, vanoedza kushandura mamiriro acho ezvinhu uye kukupwisa kuti ndiwe wakavakanganisa.
Achaparadzira makuhwa pamusoro pako, achikuita kuti uite sewakaipa. Kana akapihwa mukana, anozoratidza chokwadi chitsva chekushungurudzwa kwakakonzera kuti uite nenzira iyi, uye chokwadi chake chinowanzova chemunhu akabatwa.
Kana ikakanganisa manzwiro ako uye ichipenda chokwadi chitsva chakasiyana nezvakaitika, inonzi gaslighting. Munhu asina-kubata narcissist anowanzo shandisa nzira iyi yekunyengedza ine muchetura kuti akukwezve.
6. Vanogona kuwana mumwe munhu
Sekureva kwedzimwe nyanzvi dzepfungwa, hazvitore nguva kuti munhu anotsveyamisa pfungwa apore kubva pakurambana. Anogona kunge asingaratidzike kana achinge achifunga newe uye achikubhowa nerudo rwake, asi pakupedzisira, anofanirwa kugadzirisa kubva kune imwe nzvimbo.
Murombedzi wetsvina asina kuonana ari kutsvaga vamwe vanhu iye achitsvagawo zvaaiziva newe. PN haitore nguva yakawanda kupora kana wavakanganwa kana kuvasiya, nekuti kutenda kwavo kuva pamusoro pako kunovadzivirira kuti vasazvitore sekurambwa. Asi zvinodikanwa kuziva kuti PN ichiri kutambura nekurambana.
FN inogona kusiya munhu wake?
Paanenge asingachadi kuti iwe udyise ego yake, munyengeri wenarcissistic anokubvisa uye akusiya. Saizvozvowo, kana ukasarudza kuzvimiririra, kuisa miganhu, uye kukumbira kuwirirana, narcissist achakuramba pasina kukumbira ruregerero, kunzwira tsitsi, kana kuzvidemba.
Nekudaro, iyo yekusiya nhanho haiwanzo kureva kuti apedza newe, sezvo narcissists vanowanzo dzokorora kutenderera uku kwekunyengera uye kushungurudzwa.
Sei ndichiri kukanganwa shamwari yangu yekare yeNarcissistic Pervert?
Kufambidzana nemunhu akapara mhosva kunogona kuunza huwandu hwematambudziko. Zvakadaro vanhu vazhinji vanokwezvwa nehukama hwenarcissistic. Zvidzidzo zvakaratidza kuti maFN anonyanya kudiwa uye anoyevedza sevanogona kudyidzana navo. Asi kunyangwe mushure mehukama hwakashata, zvinogona kuve zvakaoma kusiya narcissist. Tinganzwa sokuti tiri kurega chikamu chedu kana tikasiya ukama. Kana vakave musimboti wenyika yedu, tinogona kunzwa takarasika tisina ivo.
Manongedzero ebhaibheri ekukanganwa munhu ane narcissistic pervert
Heano mareferensi manomwe emubhaibheri anobata nedingindira rekuti “Ungakanganwa sei munhu ane narcissistic pervert? » :
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Aya mareferensi anopa kunzwisisa kwakadzama kwemaitiro ekutsveyamisa narcissistic uye mazano ekuzvisunungura kubva mazviri.
mhedziso
Kuzvisunungura kubva kupesvedzero yemunhu ane narcissistic inzira yakaoma, asi isingagoneki. Nekutora nzira dzekongiri dzekuparadzana uye kuvakazve chiyero chako chepfungwa, unogona zvishoma nezvishoma kuwanazve kuzvitonga kwako uye kugadzikana. Chinhu chinonyanya kukosha ndechekugara uine moyo murefu iwe pachako uye kuisa pamberi kugara zvakanaka kwako mukati mekuita uku.
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