Rudo Bombing: Ndeipi iyi nzira yekunyengera?

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Murudo, hazvisi zvese zvinoitika sengano. Zviito zvisina kunaka zviri kutanga kuoneka muhukama hwerudo mazuvano. Kuda kubhomba kana kutsveyamiswa kwerudo. Unoda kuziva zvakawanda? Verenga kusvika kumagumo.

Chii chinonzi kubhomba rudo?

Rudo bhomba, chaizvoizvo ndizvo “rudo” bv Du "bhomba", kana kuda kubhomba. Inyanzvi inoshandiswa narcissistic pervert mune iyi nyaya kutonga zvachose munhu wake. Ane chivimbo chakazara maari uye anotenda zvakasimba mukugadzikana kwehukama hwavo. Izvi chivimbo chinotsausa kana yangosimbiswa, ichapofumadza munhu anenge abatwa ovatungamirira vakananga kutsamira mupfungwa unending.

Kuda Bombing, iyo Ghosting nyowani

Aya maitiro asina kunaka anowanzotaurwa nezvawo seakasiyana kubva kune mumwe nemumwe, asi pakupedzisira anopindirana.

  • Kubhomba kwerudo kwave kuitika, munhu anoenda uye haadzoki. Mameseji uye zvinyorwa zvinomira kamwe kamwe. Mushure mekunamatira kwakadzama kunouya a kureba kusingatsananguriki zvichibva kune narcissistic pervert. Ghosting inotanga kushanda.
  • Iyi nzira yekupopotera inoonekwa mune iyi nyaya mumasocial network, kufambidzana masaiti uko mameseji “zvinopisa” uye akazadzwa norudo akaputika. Kudyidzana kuri nyore nekushandiswa kwemoyo emoji, mazwi e cuddly ari nyore kunyora.

Vanhu vane hutsinye vanoziva kushandisa nzira mbiri idzi dzakasanganiswa kuparadza yavo nyakurwadziwa, kuwedzera kwerudo uye kunyarara kwakafa.

 

Kuda Kubhomba, zano reNarcissistic Pervert

Tinogona kutokodzera iyo munhu ane chepfu kufanana narcissistic kukanganisa muhukama. Naizvozvo inotora nzira dzakasiyana dzekukusunga iwe kwenguva refu. Hukama hune chepfu huchava mugumo wakafa kune wahubatwa. Zvikonzero ndezvi:

  1. kutanga kwehukama hwako kunogona kungove kwakashata, kunenge ngano inozopera nemuchato uye nevana vazhinji;
  2. iwe uchave wakaputirwa nerudo, uye hongu, wakaputirwa sehanzi iyo dzimwe nguva iwe unonzwa sediki "zvakare" raparadzwa;
  3. ichi chirevanguva che "zvakawandisa" chinokukwevera kune infernal spiral yerunenge rudo rwechokwadi uye kunyengedza chaiko;

Kubhomba kwerudo kunoratidzwa sei?

Iwe unongoda kuve nemusoro unotonhorera uye kuve wakangwarira zvakanyanya kuti uzvione.

  1. Munhu wacho anozokushaisa mweya rudo et kutarisa. Iwe zvechokwadi uchagutswa nemanzwiro akanaka uye kufarirwa kwenhema;
  2. zvipo, kuziviswa kworudo kwakanyanyisa, zvipikirwa zvehupenyu hwose, purojekiti yakajairika yenguva yemberi, mariage uye vana vari pachirongwa, iwe unogona chete kufara;
  3. kana wava kuda kuputsika, achauya achimhanya shure nemafungu matsva erudo neunyoro;
  4. mutambudzi anovenga kugumbuka uye achava nechokwadi chokuti wati hungu kune chero rudzi rwekubatwa kwaanokupa;
  5. Zvino pachauya nguva apo muurayi anotanga kuva kure, kutonhora uye kusafarira. Uchava nenzara yerudo rwake rwenhema nehanya;
  6. Kubhomba kwerudo kunogona kutungamirira kubata ramangwana

Uye apa ndipo paanenge abudirira muRudo bhomba uye Ghosting.  

Kubhomba kwerudo: kunyengedza kana kunyengera?

Nenzira inotevera nzira inoshandiswa neanouraya:

  • Le chinangwa chekutsveyamisa narcissistic ndiko kukunyengetedza nenzira inofadza, saka unobatwa nokukurumidza zvikuru;
  • Hezvo iwe akazara nemashoko erudo, zviratidzo zvorudo zvakanyanyisa;
  • Iye achaita shuwa kuti unopenga murudo naye kuti ipapo uve nechokwadi chekuti hauzopukunyuki;
  • Anoronga newe kune ramangwana, achiratidza kuti mapurojekiti ese emakore anotevera anokurumidza kuiswa;
  • Kurohwa kwako hakukanganwiki, kwakasiyana zvachose nezvawakanzwa pamberi pake, kunyange zvichida kungova kunzwa;
  • kana wangopindwa muropa zvachose, achakusiya usina chokwadi uye anotendeukira kune imwe mhuka nyore nyore;
  • mushure mokumuka kubva kuhope dzako, iwe unozoona kuti parameters hazvina kujairika, asi iye achadzokera kwauri sapakutanga, achikupwisa kuti uri mweya wake;

Kana ukasangana nezvimwe zvezviratidzo zvake, ramba wakangwarira nezvezviito zvake, kunongova kunyengedza. Kana iwe uchifunga nezvekunyengedza, ndizvo chete kunyengera kusina maturo.

Reverse Love Bombing

Le reverse rudo bhomba, inoreva mamiriro ezvinhu apo vanhu vasina narcissistic vanozviwana ivo vachiisa mari yakawandisa muukama nemunhu ane narcissistic. Kazhinji, "kubhomba kwerudo" kunosanganiswa nevanoshungurudza vanoremedza vavariro yavo nerudo rwakanyanya uye nehanya. Reverse rudo bhomba rinotsanangura maitiro evanhu avo, nekuda kwekuda kwakadzama kwekusimbiswa uye rudo, vanoenda kune hurefu hukuru kufadza uye kufadza mudiwa narcissistic. Maitiro aya anogona kusanganisira kuzvipira kwakakosha, kuisirwa mari, uye kushanda nesimba, zvichiratidza rutendo rwekuti vanofanirwa "kuwana" rudo nekutenderwa nanarcissist. Usamboita izvi! Iwe wakakwana sezvauri uye hapana chikonzero mukuita zvese kufadza PN. Iwe unofanirwa zviri nani!

Zvinyorwa zveBhaibheri

Heano mareferensi manomwe ebhaibheri padingindira re "rudo bhomba":

  1. Muimbi, M. T. (2003). Masekete ari pakati pedu: kunzwisisa uye kurwisa simba ravo rekunyengedza. Paris: Editions de l'Homme.
  2. Demers-Morabito, M.-E. (2020). "Chii chinonzi rudo bhomba?" ". Psychologue.net.
  3. Rozenblum, J. (2023). "Vaviri: "Kubhomba kwerudo kunoshandiswa nevanhu vanoda kudzora mumwe." Sei chiremba.
  4. Strutzenberg, CC, Wiersma-Mosley, JD, Jozkowski, KN, & Becnel, JN (2017). "Rudo-kubhomba: nzira yekunarcissistic yekugadzira hukama." Kuwanikwa, Chinyorwa cheVadzidzi cheDale Bumpers College yeKurima, Chikafu uye Hupenyu Sayenzi, 18, 81-88.
  5. Beri, R. (2024). "Chidzidzo cheRudo Bombing, Narcissism uye Kushungurudzwa Kwepfungwa pakati peVechidiki Vakuru muhukama uye Situationship." International Journal yeInterdisciplinary Approaches muPsychology, 2(6).
  6. "Rudo bhomba - Wikipedia".
  7. "Rudo bhomba: Chenjerera chishandiso ichi chekunyengera." Anahana.

Aya masosi anopa kunzwisisa kwakadzama kwekubhomba kwerudo mumamiriro akasiyana-siyana, kusanganisira hukama hwevanhu uye kunyengera kwechitendero.

mhedziso

"Kubhomba kwerudo" izano rekunyengera rinosanganisa kunyengedza uye kushungurudzwa mupfungwa. Seri kwekunyanya kutarisisa uye rudo, runowanzo fungwa pakutanga kwehukama, hunovanza maitiro ane muchetura akagadzirirwa kuteya munhu akabatwa mukutsamira mupfungwa. Chiitiko ichi, chinowanzobatanidzwa nemaitiro evanokanganisa narcissistic, chinogona kukonzera kukanganisa kwakanyanya kwepfungwa. Kungwaririra, kuteerera mirangariro yomunhu amene uye kunzvera nomutoo wakananga ukama hwacho zvinokosha kuti uzvidzivirire umene pamafambiro akadaro. Yeuka, rudo rwechokwadi harudi kunyengedzwa kana kuti kutonga.

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