Le abandonment syndrome inobatanidzwa zvakasimba nefunganyo yekusiiwa. Chimiro ichi chine zvakawanda zvinokanganisa hukama hwemunhu, angave ari erudo, hushamwari kana hwemhuri pahunhu. Hezvino izvo zvakakosha kuziva nezvazvo.
Chii chinonzi abandonment syndrome kana kutya kusiiwa?
Vanhu vane kuraswa syndrome vane kuramba vachitya kurambwa kana kuparadzaniswa. Inoratidzwa nezviratidzo zvakadai sekusachengeteka uye codependency, kusiya syndromes haisi yepamutemo yehutano hwepfungwa kuongororwa.
Kana munhu ari kusangana nekushushikana kukuru muhupenyu hwake nekuda kwekutya kusiiwa, nyanzvi yehutano hwepfungwa inogona kuvaongorora vaine mamiriro anoenderana, zvakadai sekuzvidya mwoyo kana kuora mwoyo. Vese vakuru nevana vanogona kusangana nekunzwa uku, izvo zvinogona kukonzeresa kushushikana mupfungwa uye kukuvadza zvakanyanya kuvaka hukama.
Ko kusiiwa kwechirwere kunobva kupi?
Kusiya chirwere chinowanzobva kune zvinoshungurudza zviitiko zvehucheche, maererano nenyanzvi dzakawanda dzepfungwa. Uku kunzwa kwakasimba kwekusiiwa, kurambwa kana kusabatanidzwa kunogona kunge kwakawanikwa nekuda kwekugara kwenguva refu kune munhu asingavimbike, anotuka kana asipo (mubereki, nanny, nezvimwewo).
Kunyange zvazvo chiri chokwadi kuti kutya kusiiwa kunogona kukonzerwa nyore nyore nenyaya dzine chokuita naamai uye/kana baba, chero ukama hupi nohupi hunogonawo kuva chisakiso chokusiya chirwere. Semuyenzaniso, kufirwa nomudiwa chero nguva muhupenyu hwedu hunogonawo kukweretesa kune kukura kwekusiya syndrome. Uyezve, kana wawakaroorana naye kana mudiwa akafunga kugumisa hukama, izvi zvinogonawo kutungamirira kune kutya kusiiwa.
Zvirwere zvokurapa nepfungwa, kurambwa norudo, kubatwa zvisina kufanira kubasa kana kuti kushaya mikana yebasa, kana kuti nhamo yemari inogona kuva mamwe manyuko echirwere chokusiya. Muchiitiko chega chega, munhu anenge abatwa anganzwa hasha kana kusachengeteka, zvichikanganisa hukama hwemangwana.
Ndeipi mhedzisiro yeandonment syndrome?
Abandonment syndrome inogona kuratidza zviratidzo zvepfungwa uye maitiro. Kunyangwe ivo vachigona kuratidza zvakasiyana mune vamwe vanhu, zviratidzo zvinonyanya zvinosanganisira:
Kutya kusiiwa inowanzobatanidzwa nokushaikwa kweinishuwarenzi. Kupfurikidza nokusazvivimba kuduku, vanhu vanotambura nokutya kusiiwa havanzwi vakaterama pamusoro pemirangariro yavo noushamwari hwavo, mhuri, kana kuti ukama hworudo. Vachanzwa vachikosheswa uye vachitenda kuti havakodzeri kuve muhukama nemumwe munhu.
- Kutsamira mupfungwa
Kutsamira mupfungwa zvakare chimwe chezviratidzo zvakabatanidzwa kutya kusiiwa. Chokwadi, munhu anobatwa nechirwere ichi anogona kunzwa zvakanyanya kudiwa kwekuvapo kwevamwe. Kwaari, kuvapo uku kune simba rekusimbisa uye kunobatsira kudzivisa kunetseka.
- Unbalanced hukama hwevakaroorana
Le abandonment syndrome zvinogona kuita kuti mumwe munhu asundire vamwe kure, asi zvinogoneka kuti zvive nemugumisiro wakapesana. Mumwe munhu anotya kuraswa anogona kuramba kusiya mumwe wake, kunyange kana vakanyura muukama husina kunaka. Angatya kuti haazokwanisi kuwana mumwe munhu kana kutenda kuti haakodzeri kurapwa zviri nani.
- Yakavhiringidza hukama hwemhuri
Kune munhu ane kusiyaniswa kwechirwere, hukama hwemhuri chinhu chinoshungurudza. Kazhinji anonetseka kuvimba nevamwe. Izvi zvichabatsira mukugadzira inorema uye ine chepfu mamiriro mumhuri. Munhu anotya kuraswa haazokwanisi kuzvisimbisa. Achanzwa kuodzwa mwoyo, kutyisidzirwa, kurambwa uye kuvhiringidzika. Nekuda kweizvi, zvinogoneka kuti anozove kure, kana kutoita zvehasha.
Nzira yekukunda sei kunetseka kwekusiiwa?
Kukunda kusiya chirwere kunogona kuva kwakaoma. Asi hapana kunonoka kutanga kuita nhamburiko. Kunyanya sezvo zvichikwanisika kudzidza matekiniki anozokubatsira.
Nenzira dzakakodzera, unogona pora uye ukunde kufunganya kwako saka iwe unogona kukurudzira nekuchengetedza hutano, hukama hwakanaka muhupenyu hwako.
- Sarudza chimiro chako chekunamatira
Isu tinogadzira zvitaera zvekunamatira panguva yehudiki. Zvinoenderana nekuti vabereki vedu vakatibata sei. Vanogona kuchinja mabatiro atinoita vanhu muupenyu hwedu hwose kwenguva refu pashure pokunge tava vanhu vakuru.
Kuziva yako attachment style inogona kukupa ruzivo rwekutya kwako uye kukuita kuti uwedzere kuziva maitiro ako. Nokufamba kwenguva, unogona kudzidza kushamwaridzana nevamwe nenzira dzine utano. Heano mana makuru ekunamatira masitayera: kunetseka kunamatira, kudzivirira kunamatira, kusarongeka kunamatira, kusungirirwa kwakachengeteka.
- Enda uzvionere
Kunyangwe zvakajairika kune vanhu vanotya kusiiwa kuti unzwe kunyara, kufunga nezvekutya kwako kunogona kuita kuti zvive nyore kugadzirisa. Kuzvidya mwoyo uku kunowanzodzika midzi uye hakuzomboperi kana ukazvirega. Kutarisana nemanzwiro ako kunogona kukubatsira kuita shanduko dzakanaka muhupenyu hwako.
- Tsvaka rubatsiro kubva kumurapi
Kusiiwa kwechirwere chirwere uipi hwakaoma uye zvingava zvakaoma kudzora uri woga. Nerubatsiro rwemurapi, unogona kudzidza zvakawanda nezve kutya kwako uye kwazvakabva. Semuenzaniso, chiremba wepfungwa achakwanisa kukubatsira kuti uzvisunungure kubva kune pesvedzero yemukati inoshungurudza yapfuura.
Dana chiremba wezvehutano
Iwe uchatanga kunzwisisa zvikonzero zvekusiya syndromes kuti wakasangana. Izvi zvichakubatsira kuti utange kugadzirisa kushungurudzika kwako kwekare uye kuvaka hukama hune hutano munguva ino uye mune ramangwana.
Bibliographic reference on abandonment syndrome
Heano mareferensi manomwe ebhaibheri muFrench padingindira rekusiya chirwere:
- Bowlby, J. (1983). Kurasikirwa: kuora mwoyo uye kuora mwoyo. Zvinyorwa zvesangano.
(Kunyangwe Bowlby ari munyori weAnglo-Saxon, basa rake rekubatanidza rakakosha pakunzwisisa kusiiwa kwechirwere.) - Kernberg, WE (1999). Kuparadzanisa kunetseka uye kusiya syndrome, mu Psychoanalysis uye psychopathology. Paris: Editions Dunod.
- Roussillon, R. (2005). Kubatana kwehukama: mhedzisiro pahunhu uye psychopathology. Paris: Editions Erès.
(Iri basa rinoongorora zvinokonzeresa zvekutanga zvakabatanidzwa, zvakabatana nekusiya syndrome.) - Favez, N. et al. (2009). Ukama hwevabereki nemwana uye kusiya chirwere: nyaya uye kupindira. French magazini ye psychoanalysis, 73 (2), 203-218.
- Guérin, É. (2010). Abandonment syndrome: nzira dzekurapa uye dzekiriniki. French psychiatry, 85 (4), 299-312.
- Bourguignon, M. (2013). Mhedzisiro yekusiya syndrome pahupenyu hwepfungwa uye hwehukama, mu Attachment psychology. Paris: PUF Editions.
- Mourot, G. (2017). Kusiya syndrome uye kusimba: nyaya yekudzidza uye nzira dzekurapa. Psychology Ongororo, 62 (1), 45-58.
Aya mareferensi anokupa iwe yakanaka yekutangira yekuongorora musoro wekusiya syndrome kubva kune akasiyana maonero.
mhedziso
Mukupedzisa, kusiyaniswa kwechirwere ichokwadi chakaoma icho chinokanganisa zvakanyanya hukama hwevanhu, ingave yerudo, hushamwari kana mhuri. Kunzwisisa mavambo ayo uye kuratidzwa kwakakosha kuti utange kurapa. Kuburikidza nekuongorora kwechokwadi uye nerutsigiro rwenyanzvi, zvinokwanisika kukunda kutya uku kunoremadza uye kuvaka hukama hwakanaka uye hwakadzikama. Nekusvika pakusiya syndrome nekunzwira tsitsi uye kubuda pachena, munhu wese anogona kutarisira kuwana nzira yekuzadzisa uye hukama hwechokwadi.
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