Rashin sanin asali, rashin tsaro na jiki, tunani da tunani… Ɗa mai rugujewar tunani ba shi da wata alaƙa ta al'ada da iyayensa. Hankalinsa na tsaro bai isa ya goyi bayan girman kansa ba. Yanke alakar dake tsakanin mai bakar iskanci da mahaifiyarsa.
Menene Mahaifiyar Karyata Narcissistic?
a narcissistic karkatacciyar uwa yana da a narcissistic da karkatacciyar cuta. Yanayin mu'amalarsa da wasu ya zama mai guba, rashin daidaituwa da cututtukan cututtuka. Ita ma mai son kai ce kuma mai rikon sakainar kashi. Ga uwar muguwar iska, rayuwa kamar wasa ce da take sarrafa yadda ta ga dama.
- Alamun mahaifiyar narcissistic: ita mai cuta ce kuma mai amfani da guba
Tana a asali mace mai ratsa jiki wanda girman kai, ruɗi da ɗabi'a ba ya canzawa idan ta zama uwa. Har yanzu tana bukatar kulawa sosai. Mahaifiyar narcissistic ba ta da tausayi da jin kai. Tunanin soyayya, farin ciki da tsaro sun kusan ɓace.
- A cikin narcissistic uwa da ɗan dangantaka, yaron ne kawai tsare
Ta yi amfani da shi don cimma burinta. Mahaifiyar karkatacciya ita ma tana son ta kiyaye siffarta. Tana so ta nuna hoton mahaifiya ta damu game da makomar ɗanta. Amma duk da haka a cikin sirri, ta yi duk abin da zai sa yaron ya ji laifi kuma ya kasa. Tana iya ma kishin ɗanta ta yi halitta kishiya mai guba. Bukatar sha'awa yana da mahimmanci ga uwa mai baƙar fata. Ta dauki yaronta a matsayin dan amshin shata a wasan jana'izarta. Yaran 'ya'yansa waɗanda ke da damar da za su iya zama masu ɓarna bi da bi yana da muni.
Shin Mai Nazarci Yana Karɓar Yana Son Mahaifiyarsa?
Mai baƙar magana ba ya da ikon yin tasiri. Abin da ya dame shi shi ne samun iko a kan yanayi da kuma iko a kan wasu. Tare da iyayensa, mai baƙar fata yana la'akari da shi tsarin dangantakar iyaye da yara a matsayin mai kutse. a da narcissistic karkatar da yaro, matsaloli da yawa na iya bayyana:
- zalunci;
- ciwon kai;
- tsoro dare...
Mai baƙar magana ba ya jin tausayi. Ba ya gamsu kuma koyaushe yana son ƙari. Wannan shi ya sa zama tare da narcissist yawanci gajiya, musamman ga wadanda suka dogara da motsin rai kuma suna fama da rashin lafiya rashin yarda da kai.
Mai Fassara Narcissistic da Mahaifiyarsa: Me ya sa Mai Narcissistic karkatar da Mahaifiyarsa?
Ga dan karkataccen yaro, mahaifiyarsa ce mutum ta farko a rayuwarsa. Ita ce:
- wanda yake ciyar da shi;
- wanda ya yi imani da shi;
- wanda ya kare shi.
Saboda haka dogara da ita.
Mai baƙar fata mai narci da mahaifiyarsa suna da alaƙa mai guba. Lallai uwar miyagu ta karkace tana jinjina masa duk abin da ya faru. Ta sa shi yarda cewa shi ne mafi kyau kuma ta tabbatar masa cewa abokansa ba su cancanci shi ba. Mahaifiyar ɓatacciya don haka ta ba shi babban hoto.
Haka kuma, karkatacciya ba ta da laifi ga uwa. Kullum tana kare shi. Ko ya ci amanar kamfen dinta ko kawayenta sai ta ce ai laifin wasu ne ba yaronta ba. Uwa kuma takan rage yawan kurakuran danta. Don haka yana da girman kai sosai. A hakikanin gaskiya, bautar gumaka tana ciyar da bangarorin biyu.
Dangantakar da ke tsakanin mai raɗaɗi da mahaifiyarsa na iya zama matsala musamman ga mai raɗaɗi da yaƙin neman zaɓe. Gaskiyar ita ce mahaifiyarsa za ta kasance ta farko a rayuwarsa.
Alamomin gane Mahaifiyar Karyace Mai Narcissistic
Akwai alamun da yawa don ganowa bayanin martabar wata karkatacciyar uwa.
1. Manipulator
Ga uwa mai raɗaɗi, buƙatunta kaɗai ke da matsala. Ta kafa tasirinta ta amfani da:
- baƙar fata;
- magudi;
- rage darajar;
- cin zarafi.
Ita ma ba ta yi kasa a gwiwa ba wajen cin zarafin ‘ya’yanta don ta sarrafa su yadda ta ga dama.
2. Baya taimaka wa yaranku su kasance masu zaman kansu
Uwa mai baƙar magana ba ta ba ɗanta wani sirri ba. Don haka ba ta shakka:
- karanta littafin diary dinsa;
- yi tambayoyi marasa hankali;
- yi yadda za ku shiga cikin kan yaranku.
Sai ta hana yaronta tasowa da ba ya barin shi 'yancin kai.
3. Mai guba
Mahaifiyar muguwar iska ta musanta ainihin ɗanta. Ta wulakanta shi, yayin da take amfani da tashin hankali na jiki da na hankali. Wannan zalunci yana ba shi damar cika sha'awar sa. A cikin dangantaka mai guba na mahaifiyar narcissistic tare da 'yarta, ba ta bari babu daki don keɓantawa, yancin zaɓi da ɗaiɗaikun ɗa.
4. Yawan suka
Lokacin da uwa ke fama da ciwon hauka, takan yi ta sukar ɗanta don ta sa ya ji ƙanƙanta. Za ta rufe wannan da niyyar alheri.
5. Amfani da soyayya a matsayin lada
'Ya'yan uwa mai raɗaɗi ba su saba da samun ƙauna, kulawa ko ƙauna ba. Yana da duka game da karshen. Mahaifiyar narcissistic ta yanke shawarar nuna ƙauna ga 'ya'yanta kawai ci gaba da bayyanuwa ko don samun wani abu a madadin.
Karkatar Narcissistic da Mutuwar Mahaifiyarsa - Yaya yake amsawa?
Mai baƙar magana ba ya mayar da martani kamar na al'ada mutuwar mahaifiyarsa.
1. Jinsa
Narcissistic karkatattu ne babu bakin ciki da nadama. Musamman suna jin haushi, bacin rai da ramuwar gayya idan ba su sami abin da suke nema ba. Mai rugujewa ya dauki mutuwar mahaifiyarsa a matsayin watsi.
2. Rasuwar da ba ta cika ba
Ko da uwar maguzawa ta tsufa ko rashin lafiya mai tsanani, yaronta ba ya laushi. Akasin haka, halinsa na iya kara muni. Mai baƙar magana na iya ƙara zarginsa da rashin samun isasshen kulawa da ƙauna.
3. Halinsa
Ko da mahaifiyarsa ta mutu, har yanzu mai baƙar fata yana buƙatar jawo hankali ga kansa. Yana amfani da yanayin don jawo hankalin mutane. Ya ci gaba da yin lalata kuma baya jinkirin yin kamar wanda aka azabtar ta hanyar zagin mahaifiyarsa. A hakikanin gaskiya, yana daukar mutuwar mahaifiyarsa a matsayin cin amana na mafi girman tsari. Narcissism ya ci gaba da girma. Mai yiwuwa ma ya ga laifin mahaifiyarsa saboda kulawar da ta samu.
Maganar Littafi Mai-Tsarki akan alakar da ke tsakanin ɓarna mai ruɗi da mahaifiyarsa
Anan akwai nassoshi 7 na kimiyya a cikin Faransanci waɗanda ke magana akan jigon dangantakar da ke tsakanin ɓarna mai natsuwa da mahaifiyarsa:
- Paul-Claude Racamier - "Rikicin Narcissistic"
Source: lapsychanalyse.fr - "Wakilin iyaye da salon haɗin kai a cikin batutuwa masu lalata jima'i"
Source: erudit.org - "Daga uwa mai karkatacciya narcissism zuwa karkatacciyar matar aure"
Source: hal.kimiyya - "Harkokin Narcissistic" - Hanyar tunani
Source: openition.org - "Hysteria da karkatar da hankali: karkatar da narcissistic"
Source: cairn.info - "Rikicin narcissistic - Paul-Claude Racamier"
Source: psychoanalysis.com - "Tsarin narcissistic karkatar da bayanan martaba"
Source: psychotherapie-calonne.be
Wadannan nassoshi suna ba da nazari mai zurfi game da dangantaka mai guba da kuma tasirin uwa wajen tsara halin mutum na karkatar da narcissistic.
Kammalawa
A }arshe, ala}ar da ke tsakanin karkatacciya mai zurfafa tunani da mahaifiyarsa wata muguwar dabi’a ce mai guba da halakarwa, wadda ke tattare da magudin juna da bautar gumaka marar tushe. Mahaifiyar karkatacciya tana siffanta halayen ɗanta ta hanyar kulle shi cikin yanayin dogaro da tunani da ƙara girman kai. Wannan dangantaka, wanda aka gina akan sarrafawa da tasiri, yana hana yaron daga haɓaka ainihin gaskiya mai cin gashin kansa, yana jefa shi cikin yanayin rashin tausayi. Fahimtar wannan haɗaɗɗiyar ƙarfin hali yana ba mu damar fahimtar abubuwan da ke faruwa a rayuwar balagaggu na ɓatanci na narcissistic, duka a kan ma'auninsa da kuma dangantakarsa da wasu.
Ina da sha'awar ilimin halin ɗan adam, Na yi aiki a fagen kuɗi na shekaru 10. A matsayina na Shugaba na gudanar da ƙungiyoyin mutane sama da 200. Ilimin halin kowa duniya duniya ne a kansa kuma tabbas mabuɗin nasarar waɗannan kasuwancin!
Tare da rukunin yanar gizon perversnarcissique.org da kuma ƙungiyar agaji Je M'Aime, na ba da ilimina game da batun da kuma gogewar rayuwata akan batun narcissism da karkatar da narcissistic, bala'in al'ummarmu. A gare ni wannan cuta ita ce ainihin matsalar lafiyar jama'a, wanda ba a san shi ba, duk da cewa tana shafar kusan rabin al'umma zuwa matakai daban-daban.
Hakanan wata hanya ce ta taimakon mutane, domin na sami damar samun taimako daga baki da kaina a tsawon rayuwata. Akwai ba kawai narcissistic karkatattu a cikin wannan duniya da kuma sa'a! Anan muna taimaka wa mutane su fahimci abin da ke faruwa da su kuma mu ci gaba zuwa rayuwar da ba ta da narcissists - mafi kyawun rayuwar ku! Ba ku kadai ba kuma za ku iya yin canji don yin rayuwa mai gamsarwa, cike da salama, jituwa da ƙauna!
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